I will try to help you out here. First do not believe the hype and your right porn is not any form of education about sex. I will tell you that statistically the average male size is 5.25 inches in length as done by the latest British study of 10,000 males measured. The average woman is around 6 inches in depth and the first 3 inches are usually most sensitive part of the vagina excluding the clit and g-spot. Next and most important is that no two people ( male and female) are alike. Some men are bigger as are some women. See its a fit thing and what feels good for one person may hurt like hell to another. If you have a few partners in your life you will learn this and be able to make decisions on what feels best for you. This advice is purely on a physical sexual nature and my true advice is that the brain is the largest sexual organ humans have so once to entertwine emotion and love into the mix the sex becomes so much more.

Best of luck

First off, nerves will ruin sex. Try to be yourself, and relax the best you can. Lostsoul is right 100% the brain is the biggest (and most important!) sex organ (for both sexes). If all you are doing is concentrating on other things, the sex will suck, no matter what the size of anything is. The best thing to do is be in the moment, pay attention to her body language. Truly enjoy each other. Take your time.... take the time to feel how good sex really feels. Not just on a physical level. OH, and another bit of good advise.... if you even think she's the type of girl that would laugh at something like that... don't F'in sleep with her, she's not the right one! :)

Thank you guys for answering it means a lot and it helps a lot too. It definitely calms my nerves somewhat. I usually just try try to do what I feel is right and I think that works for me I mean I have no idea what else I could do. Also, do you guys think that it's strange that I feel bad or almost dirty if I sleep with more than one woman? I always thought, ever since I was little, that a girl and a guy would only sleep with one person in their entire life and I think that makes me feel bad that that's not going to happen for me now. Is that a strange thing to think? I think this might be my biggest issue now that you guys have answered my other questions.

I was the same the way and thought the same way as you. The problem with life is this. Not everyone agrees with our way of thinking nor do they hold the same value or belief. I appears that with each younger generation sex becomes more of a recreational sport and Love has nothing to do with it.

I can tell you that having a few partners in life is not always a bad thing. The experience of it teaches us what we like and don't like and it also helps to find a person that better fits our needs. Lots of people base relationships on many different things and sometimes sex is one of them. If the sex is great, but the rest of the relationship lacks all the other key factors to keep it alive then it will eventually die. Many people get married, because one of the main factors in their relationship is great, but the others lack and that is why there is so many divorces now a days. Racinggirl gave you some great advice.

I wish you luck!

If you already had sex with someone, how important was size TO HER? It's just a matter of finding a woman similar in physical stature to you so you two will fit together perfectly. If your penis is small, go for a small, petite girl. Contrary to what you may have seen in porn, small petite girls do NOT necessarily want a big 12" dick in them. It would hurt them.

I agree that the brain is the most important sex organ and I've been having trouble finding a woman who stimulates my intellect, be a multi-dimensional thinker, as well as my loins, be physically beautiful. I'm a visual person, appreciate physical beauty, so naturally I go for good-looking women. Then I talk with them about technology, the arrs, entertainment, business and finance, politics or any number of subjects I'm interested in, and they look at me like I've got two heads, they have no idea what I'm talking about, or they have a very narrow, one-dimensional perspective, which bores the shit out of me. I can't just turn off my mind and focus solely on my dick. Maybe in my late teens-early 20s, I could do that, but now, it's a limited existence. I require the whole physical, intellectual, emotional constitution now, to feel fully engaged, and to get a hardon. Maybe so will it be with you, once you turn, oh, 26 or so.

Arts, typo.

Hi shyguy
Finding reputable sources on google should be helpful for the physical questions. As far as your concerns about being with another person to pleasing your partner and asking him/her what they like and help you coach you through it because we are all so sexually different as far as our likes and dislikes that if someone tells you that "all women or all men" like this a certain way, they are wrong. I'm 51 and been sexually active all of my adult life (swinging, polyamory, pansexual/bisexual). Perhaps someone might be cruel or demeaning towards you for not being experienced but it is them being immature and has nothing to do with you. Most humans carve intimacy--it is in our nature so relax and be honest with yourself and others.

I am 60 years old. I have never once thought about size because I AM WAY TO BUSY THINKING ABOUT HOW GOOD IT FEELS. TRUST ME, PASSION IS POWERFUL!

I often in the heat of passion, moan about how big and hard my Master is.

Concentrate on HER, YOUR PARTNER, what you like ABOUT HER, get to that place in your soul of dark animal passion, then dick size will be a non-issue.

Thank you all so much for your advice, it means and helps me out a lot.

shyguy you mentioned that you value permanent monogamy (1 sexual partner for life). Did you learn this value from your parents (or other adult example) or through religion? Is this value very important to you?

I don't know where I learned this from, I just always thought that is how it was supposed to be ever since I was a little kid. I think it's important but I'm trying to get over this as it isn't very realistic.

size matters! i think, maybe, ok not to me, but then i'm a guy and i'm hetro so that means, if it was good for me then i'm off to sleep
dude, seriously size matters to some as does body type, eye color, and all the rest, be yourself, be honest, be direct, be nice, accept only the same and you'll get to use your more than your imagination

i think for most people size matters. Most of my friends like big. I may be in minority, but for me a large one doesn't work. I was gifted with a tight, small space, giving birth helped the problem, but If I have a guy with >7 , I feel like I m being impaled.
Of course, if I am in love with a man, I don't care what is in his pants because I will love it and make it work no matter what size it is.
To me, a man and his personal qualities are way more important than the size of his cock.