Healthy Sex Support Group
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I posted in another room, but thought I would vent here too. I've seen many posts that were never looked at. I don't know if there are answers out there but I feel very much alone. Hubby and I attempted sex last night and everything was great until penetration. He stopped and said I was too tight. I knew I was very lubricated and told him to keep going. When he did....omg! The pain was real. I tried to get him to stop but at that point, he couldn't. I literally cried because of the pain and he got mad. Not at me, but the whole situation. He kept saying, it shouldn't hurt you, it shouldn't hurt you. I hate that I ruin it every time. We have been married 20 years and not once had real good sex! If it isn't me that's the problem, it's him because of immature ejaculation. Maybe that is because he knows he has to hurry. I don't know. I know there are other things one can do, but I want to feel him. We rarely have sex because my moods are up and down and painful sex isn't fun. We also started sleeping in separate rooms because he snores so badly. We are rarely intimate. Our marriage has suffered because of this, yet we keep plowing through. He adores me and is a good man and I stay with him because he is my best friend (we met when we were 17) and puts up with my stubborn ass.
Before you ask. I have seen doctors in the past. One said it's in my head and to try these exercises. Another gave me testerone cream to use. None of these things have worked and I gave up.
Is it too much to ask to want to experience what the world says is suppose to be pleasurable? :(
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I have toys. So the ones I have not used or need any more, are gone in the trash. One of my toys is just a regular hand held massager with an attachment. The other is a real insertable toy. This morning I ordered a new toy with attachments. It is small and has a brush like attachment and the other looks like a rose with a tiny tongue. I'll get it in about 2 weeks. Rechargable and...
It may not be the same, but still could provide pleasure for you both?
I used to be bigger but the last time anything was done by him, it hurt too. I guess I had tightened up or maybe it was tension.
It even hurts me to use a "toy" so I quit for the most part and don't insert. Miss that alot.
I texted my fiance about it this morning, and yet to hear back. I hope he isn't mad because he seemed to be enjoying himself last night.
I have no idea if I'm tight or not, idk how to tell. I've always been afraid that the reason guys want to go for it dry is because I'm loose. Idk why I would be tho, I don't have kids and was a virgin until age 24, and haven't dated that much. I think I'm just dry because of my screwed up hormones and all the birth control pills I have to be on for my endometriosis.