Healthy Sex Support Group

This community is dedicated to an open discussion about healthy sex and sharing thoughts and feelings about sexuality and improving one's sex life. Most active adults desire to have an active and fulfilling sex life, both for themselves and also their partner. Here we discuss common sexual challenges faced by both men and women.

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deleted_user 02/20/2007

So my darling lover has a little problem keeping an erection. i really dont mind at all, i dig makeout/fingering/oral as much as sex, the thing is he just gets so upset because he wants to be hard! he wants to do me but he cant.

i try and be supportive and all but i dont know how to deal with his frustration. i dont know how to make him feel better and be able to enjoy some other couple activities?

i really want to get some!
but most nights i just end up trying unsuccesfully to comfort my darling.

any ideas?

deleted_user 02/20/2007

Help him relax and take his time. Find out what turns him on. Sounds like he's thinking about getting the errection and not letting it get there by itself. Sometimes mine does the same, mainly when my girl and I have alot of sex, but then she does something that just turns me on and away we go....

deleted_user 02/20/2007

Some qustions that you might consider.
Has he tried the meds for ED?
Does he have any physical problems?
Over weight? Drinking? Drugs?

deleted_user 02/20/2007

Sorry, I meant to list these questions also.
Is he tired? Stressed? Getting enough sleep? Do you set aside a nice romantic quiet time? Does he focus too much on pleasing you instead of himself?

deleted_user 02/25/2007

julia,i have been dealing with the same thing with my sweetie.we tried the viagra thing and all,but no good results.finally we got the enzyte you see on tv,walmart carry's it now.it has made a world of difference

deleted_user 02/28/2007

My fiance had the same problem when we first met, but when he would get hard he would last forever...now not so much. He can get hard no prob now but its over pretty quick if we dont pace things. He said it has alot to do with frequency and stimulation.

deleted_user 03/01/2007

I've been there too .. from time to time .. It sounds like he is placing value judgements on himself .. for his difficulty .. which only makes the problem worse ..

Maybe try doing everything .. but .. the actual act .. and just play .. and have fun ..

Also .. maybe suggest he get a quick check with the doctor .. to see if the trouble is "under the hood" .. so to speak ..

The stresses and strains of life .. can cause such difficulty .. and guys have such fragile egos .. which adds to frustrations ..

If you are both open, honest, loving and caring .. I'm sure all will work out well ..

Hope this helps ..

GZUSthug 12/16/2007

HEY, ME TOO. WOW WHAT A SMALL WORLD.

Darkman 02/11/2018

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