I am doing it at least once a day and either watch porn or think about some of my previous experiences. Not sure if that is too much? In the process of divorce and thinking this might be a form of self help, lol in more ways than one.

IMO, it's only too much when it replaces other things in your life and you start neglecting your responsibilities.

I'm in a LDR, I have a very high libido and it's not unusal for me to get some play time in daily, sometimes more than once a day.

I occasionally watch porn but not too often. I rather watch it with my partner, sometimes he'll send me a link to a video he knows I'll like or a story he found he knows I would like. Many times he'll tell me what he is going to do to me or what I'm going to do to him next time we're together and that gives me food for thought.

Many of my fantasies are things that turn me on but are not things I want in real life. My partner is most often in my fantasies, my fantasies are always based on bdsm but are to extremes farther than what we do engage in and many times other people are added into my fantasies. One of my frequent fantasies is my partner/Dom sharing me with another Dom or participating in a dungeon party. That's not something I really want to happen, it's not something he would allow even if I wanted it but it's exciting and a turn-on for playtime.

it just depends on the person and their life experiences. i would say that i masturbate solo probably 2-3 times a month. and then masturebate after sex if i havent orgasmed maybe once or twice a week. but i also have sex on almost a daily basis. so it really depends.

is 3 times in 18 years too little?

Once again, leather nailed it.

Porn shouldn't be used as a "band-aid" for painful or nasty feelings about the divorce, because that stuff WILL come bubbling to the surface anyway. Got to find a better way to express pain and anger (I like to exercise). And porn does tend to skew one's impression of women, that all women are wonton, slutty sex robots, always down for Olympian sex sports, when real women, are a bit more soft, subtle and tender than that.

But, porn, in a pinch, beats hiring prostitutes!

I find myself gravitating toward watching lesbian porn these days, because it IS soft.

Plus, with the occasional deviant foray into watching she-males jerk off (hey, they look very pretty and feminine!), don't really enjoy looking at sausages that much.

kool--------------i am with you there. i LOVE trans porn!

i rarely ever look up porn. my husband and i will occasionally watch some together or watch one of the sexier specials on cinemax or something. but that is seriously only 4 or 5 times a year. i look up porn when i am alone maybe once a year. when i do, i gravitate toward xtube. i prefer seeing REAL people. unfortunately, there is not a lot of trans porn on there. so usually i stick with masturbation videos instead.

So the divorce is something that has been going on since last November but I think that I am replacing the loss of intimacy with masturbating and porn. It kinda feels that way. I have been working on being ok with being alone for the past 6 months and feel like I am getting their. Feel like this is why I have been trying to understand myself more on a sexual level. Was married since I was 24.