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Lights out?

Loved1
Loved1
Why lights out? Is it an insult to me, that you don't like how I look? Please share your thoughts.
deleted_user
deleted_user
with most people it's not the other person they are worried about it's themselvs.. "000 i look so funny when i come i don't want him/her to see" or "he'll see my jelly rolls"
sound good to you?
deleted_user
deleted_user
I don't really know you to answer that question...

Personally I prefer the lights on.
FrmDeb2U
FrmDeb2U
I agree with mominator. It sounds more like he's insecure with the way HE looks.
lladyfairhair
lladyfairhair
No other way than - LIGHTS ON!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I love it with the lights on!

How am I supposed to see wht I'm doing???

I can also judge by the facial expression how I'm doing and whether I need to step it up a peg or two!!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
LOL Right on Andy74. I agree, lights on! Or outside in the daylight! I actually don't like doing it in the pitch dark. Only time that's good is when you're with a one night stand or a f-buddy that is good sex but not good looking. LOL
deleted_user
deleted_user
I like dim, indirect lights.
TV or computer will actually do it too.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Do you watch the TV or computer??
deleted_user
deleted_user
If I look at her while we are fucking, I come too fast. But it all depends on how long it has been between our last session and the current one.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Andy,
I don't watch while we're at it!!! Gad no!!! Of course not!!! lol... I am just talking about the light it emits since we are talking about it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Off?! No way.... once I've got the confidence to get the man I want, nothing stops me!
lladyfairhair
lladyfairhair
Its better to see their face- body... etc- lights out would take away most of whats sexy during the experience.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Moment call..it can be a helluva lot of fun in a totally black room...no light whatsoever just...exploring each other. Remove one sense, and the remaining ones step it up....
deleted_user
deleted_user
like being blind-folded.....
deleted_user
deleted_user
gotta have them on i dont like eating in the dark
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