I think it's fine as long as it doesn't physically hurt you and arouses you.

I set my limits to actually hurting me, I do like being spanked and choked and slapped but I dont like being hurt, I do however like being commanded and degraded, its always been that way and ive always been made to believe I am afreak,

You are not a freak . It's not as unusual as you might think.
Ive had 2 girlfriends that wanted at least some part of what you mentioned. One wanted me to push her down her knees and force
her to perform oral sex on me. She also said i was not forceful enough in bed. This is graphic but a direct quote from
her "If your balls are not slapping my asshole you're not fucking me hard enough."

Another girlfriend wanted to be choked. I would put my hand on her throat but not squeeze. I'm not into hurting anyone. She also had a rape fantasy...wanted to be "taken" .

I'm not even sure what normal is after those two.

I know that a lot of my needs concern my partners, some dont want to try it in fear they will hurt me others think its flat out wrong and yeah I do like taking it slow and sensual because its nice but at the same time nothing gets me going like being taken and forced ....I do also like being forced to do oral sex.. I just dont react the same way to loving and caring as I do to being degraded and humilated.

Nothing wrong with your kinks. Long as your man understand your boundaries on how far to take it. If you enjoy it it's all good! :)

I tried to play psychologist and figure out what made the women want
the "take me " sex. Best I could come up with was they wanted to feel
that they were attractive enough to make a man go primal and not be able to control himself.
Whatever the reason, I just gave them what they wanted.
That's how you get invited back.

Nothing wrong with it if you both like it.

Right or wrong is only a matter of opinion...

Millions of ppl would think us talking about private stuff here is wrong.
Does that make it wrong to us?

I've always told my kids there's nothing wrong with liking or doing something as long as it doesn't hurt anyone.

When I was young, "rough sex" meant something quite different than it means today! If I said I "liked it rough", back then I merely meant forceful thrusting, wrestling, playing hard. I didn't mean I wanted to be choked or slapped (in the face), although I did like playful spanking. But that was simply erotic spanking, not punishment spanking or degradation. It doesn't seem "wrong" so much as "sad" for a person to be more aroused by being degraded than from being loved and valued.

@Dogg75 - the "take me" sex could also be an outgrowth of a puritanical upbringing, the woman can enjoy the act without any guilt lurking in the back of her head.

There's a website devoted to fetishes called FetLife. It's so anonymous you don't even need a valid email address to sign up.

I agree with LW. I would rather be loved and valued.

Henryrielly,
Good thought on the upbringing . i know one of the ladies had a very strict father and her parents argued a lot. I'll check out the website.

What ever two adults agree on in the privacy of their own home is all good!

Right, wrong, normal, not normal...in whose opinion? Who are you trying to impress? If you like it, it turns you on, great--it's what "works", for you.

My only reservation is: It's not HEALTHY, for you, if it spills into the rest of your relationship and the rest of your life outside the bedroom. As long as you're able to compartmentalize, confine your desire to be humiliated to the bedroom or wherever you have sex, great, then it's just a fun game you and your SO do during your "play time".

what problem I don't see any problem.

Whatever you or your partner agree on should be fine. Just make sure you have a safe word and your partner understands that when you use it, it's time to stop.