JMO, but when bedroom festivities of the sexual nature become a chore, there is an underlying problem that needs to be addressed, possibly medical or hormonal, LOW Testosterone seems to be a heavily targeted issue this day and age. Once a person can rule out medical possibilities, then tackling emotional splits can take place.

Hope things work out for you

thanks what does JMO stand for? he likes porn n stuff no medical problems he just cant be botherd thats the full end n tail of it all so now im thinkin it must be me

God, yet another marriage catastrophe? This is the second one on this board this week!

Dunno, you look plenty hot to me!

Maybe the problem is marriage itself? Too much familiarity? A saturation point to experience? Tried everything, now it's played out? Same routine, day-in/day-out? Wish I could say something more constructive to help, sorry.

My friend went through this w/ her husband and sad to say, I do think you are fighting a losing battle.

If it were me, I would completely ignore him for good long while. I know other people who have been through this probably have better advice.

After my friend suffered a burst brain aneurysm and almost died, her husband then became interested in her again. SO messed up! Anyway, my point being that it seems to be a big head-game. Of course, then there are the addiction problems, which I know nothing about.

Good luck, Hon.

thank you everyone ( hugs )

JMO = just my opinion

Have you talked to him about it and let him know how you feel?

You said no medical stuff but has he talked to his doctor about lack of sexual interest?

How's everything else going in the relationship? Many times bedroom problems stem from other relationship issues and sometimes other relationship issues stem from problems in the bedroom.

Yeah, like poor (or lack of) communication. Been there myself.

if it's really that difficult for you, try a trial seperation.

Sadly, i have been through that before but - im here to tell you...
our sex has been incredible bc of it. 6 years and it keeps getting better. sooooooooooo hotttttttttttttttttt - xoxoxoxoooooooo

just sayin....

I completely understand ! xo

THE JOKING PART:

Yeah, I'm sick of doing all the work, just the other night I ran out of lotion AND my hand cramped. (I'm divorced)

THE SERIOUS PART:

I'm sorry Hon. That sucks. That was the last several years of my marriage. It hurts to be the one that seems to want it. I think everybody else has already said anything I would.