sex can be extremely selfish!

but, you could also think that way about just anything going on in your own life in comparison to what some others are facing...

We can only do what we do in our life time we can't control every thing that goes on in the world.And let's face it sex it great so yes to sex.

What a depression thought. And believe me, I've thought this way far too many times. Yes, it's selfish in the way that it is self serving-- you aren't helping anyone else around the world with their troubles while you're having sex. But then if you apply that to other things we do... Why should we eat? It takes up time, and money, and there are sure as hell millions that aren't eating. We can't live like that, though. We need to take care of ourselves, and do our best to help others. Sex, in a healthy way, is part of taking care of yourself.

I totally agree, and love sex with a passion...it just seems trivial that people complain about their sexless marriages or relationships when there are SOOO many more serious troubles around. Thank God we live in a country where we can walk down the street without being shot or stepping on a land mine!

Wait a minute. The people in those countrys are having sex to. The only time sex is selfish is when the other person dont get off. We can not do anything about the problems in the world. I have an idea. I will go to Iraq and tell them to stop fighting or I will go to Asia and tell them not to sell childern as sex slaves. Then to top it off I will go to South America and tell the cartell not to make drugs anymore. So people can feel better about having sex.

LOL..good luck with that GSCH

I don't think its trivial for a damn minute. I'm actually a little offended by that statement.

I can understand your point Kool to a degree. Yes, sex can be selfish. I said can be. Not is all the time. And yes, there are so many big issues going on in the world.

But one - If a sexless marriage or relationship is happening to you, it doesn't feel so trivial. You can't just belittle people's problems. If it's big to them, it's important and big period. We have to respect that.

And secondly -There will always be big issues going on in the world. We can't change that. That doesn't make sex less important. God made us (if you believe in God as I do) as sexual creatures by nature. He made us to procreate. He made us wired so that we have physical needs. If you aren't getting those met, just as if you have a need to eat, and you aren't getting any food, then its a problem! Thats the way I see it.

Well, all this passion is getting me so horny I wanna fuck someone...

Sex isn't trivial; it's natural. Flutter was 100% correct when she said "If a sexless marriage or relationship is happening to you, it doesn't feel so trivial." Couldn't agree more. And problems are deemed big or small by the person going through them. What may seem trivial and insignificant to you may be a major issue for someone else. There will always be some global problem or epidemic or catastrophe that is bigger than the everyday problems we experience, but that doesn't make those daily problems any less important to the person going through them.


and aren't conversations about sex, be it complaints or otherwise, the general purpose of this group???

To those in sexless marriages, yes, that sucks, but there's always a hand or dildo. Never rely on someone else for what you can do yourself (although, yes, sex is supposed to be an integral part of a marriage and it sucks when it isn't there).

To those I offended, I apologize.

Sex isn't always just about getting off. To me, the intimacy and connection made during sex is vital to my relationship with my husband.

I'm not offended; I just thought both sides should be represented.

Oh Kool *big sigh* What the fuck am I going to do with you????

No, you can't just use a hand or a dildo. And no, its not about going without if you can do it yourself. Because let me tell you - YOU CAN'T.

You can't duplicate the intimacy involved with sex. You can't replicate another warm body against yours wanting you. As good for some things as BOB is, he is not a person.

Thus, back to me saying, us as humans, all have physical needs. And physical touch is one of them.

I'm so gonna kick your ass Kool!!!

Yep. Imitators will never be as good as the original. You simply cannot replace sex. As other have said, you can get off in plenty of ways. But sex, my friends, is special. Nothing else like it, period.

I don't think sex will ever be trivial to me b/c I only had sex twice before I was 28. It didn't "lose it" until I was 22.

You have no control what happens all over the world with other peoples lives. Life is supposed to be fun...and having sex is fun. If you are enjoying the ride, someone is probably enjoying it with you! Now isnt that a better thought!