Healthy Sex Support Group
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Before I left I tried to get him to have sex. He never did and was always on his phone. I would wear lingerie, give him messages and dress up... nothing. He didn't want me touching him. Towards the end he just didn't want me and would watch porn. Thoughts? I'm wondering if he's cheated or just doesn't want me. He only does when I left ...
Lolita_Lynn
Not wanting sex is a serious problem in a relationship. Sex is when you and your partner accepts each other just how you are and when there is someone who doesn't want it it feels like they reject you as a person. If you want to continue in the relationship, you need to have a talk. Don't drop hints but say exactly what you feel and how his rejection makes you feel.
Timetofly
Does he have confidence issues related to sex, like premature ejculation or not being able to get it up sometimes? If so this will make a man avoid sexual interactions even if he wants to because he has a fear of disappointing his partner.
Jke1
No after I had a baby he said he wasn't interested the more time went on
Timetofly
Does he still treat you like a great woman outside of sexual activities?
Jke1
Nope he got angry
Timetofly
No, I mean in general, when you guys are just doing regular day to day activities does he treat you with adoration... Example, taking you out, making sure you are okay, or any sort of action that makes you feel warm.
Jke1
No he's angry
Timetofly
That sounds like a him issue and not an issue with you. You could be superwoman and it still wouldn't matter.
Jke1
Yep learned that I legit did everything for him
already59
I noticed that you said he lost interest after the baby was born. My question is did he want to have a child and after child birth did you ask him how he felt about the child. I know when a child enters a relationship it changes a lot of things. No longer are either of you the center of attention anymore. The way sex feels changes which changes attitudes. You also mentioned he stays angry have you ever figured out why he is angry. I am of the belief that there is something greater going on with either both of you or just him. This doesn't mean either you are to blame it just that you both have to get to the root of the problem. For him it may take a while for him to realize his errors and it may be something you are doing that he views as threatening. Until that happens nothing will change. BUT!!!! if he has resorted to porn I will bet the farm it has to do with your sex life or the entrance of the baby (not the baby itself) but the life changes of the family dynamic. For instance my wife and I use to have sex nearly every night when our son was 4 years old. As he aged the sex became less and less. He is now 21 years old and our sex life has totally changed I am not happy about the change, my wife is content. However it is not something we fight over I just take advantage when I can. So what I am saying is until you get to the root of the problem I don't see anything changing.
Im-nathan
Demand better! You deserve a man who will respect you and the effort you put into the relationship. His loss if he cant recognize that.
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