Healthy Sex Support Group
This community is dedicated to an open discussion about healthy sex and sharing thoughts and feelings about sexuality and improving one's sex life. Most active adults desire to have an active and fulfilling sex life, both for themselves and also their partner. Here we discuss common sexual challenges faced by both men and women.
I tend to attract the ladies when I'm angry and aggressive. When I'm sweet and sappy, I don't get anywhere. Is this sick or normal?
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As a lot on here, I feel as my brain is just wired wrong. I feel like whenever I've been real bad with anxiety, my only coping mechanisms are either having a few drinks, or sex and masturbating.But then having a climax ONLY to decrease anxiety makes me feel worse sometimes! Like I'm only using it as a crutch to feel ok. So then after I... *release*... I feel kind of weird and awkward about...
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So I'm new to this group. But I'm at a roadblock and looking for advise. I've been married for 17 years and have 3 beautiful teen/adult children. We've had hard times and great times, but always make things work and won't give up on each other. We are best friends and I can't imagine my life without him. My husband and middle child are ADHD. It's been challenging. Fighting for my child from...
Throw a nice strong set of shoulders in there....kaPOW.
Sweet and sappy? Yeah, I'll get another dog.
I find men that are confident in their own abilities, appearance, the way they move, talk and deal with things attractive. Men that can respond back to a question/comment immediately with a quick-witted well thought out response showing intellect and humour, impress me beyond belief.
Arrogance to me, is another form or confidence. If you are GOOD and you KNOW it, why not carry yourself such? Why NOT exude an aura of confidence? How can this NOT be considered attractive?
This is purely connected to the animal world. The dominant beast is in charge of the pack. Nothing to do with abusive relationships.
Like I said.sweet and sensitive? Ill get a housepet.
I think it's sexy when my soulmate is aggressive and arrogant and confident in his superiority to assholes who deserve nothing better and espeically love it when he's feeling that way because of some perceived slight against me. Very manly, very protective, and very, very HOT.
But towards me, he's very sweet and sappy, which is just one of the many reasons that I love him with all my heart.
If he was only one way or the other, I doubt that I would be in love with him.
He's a perfect mix of all that a man should be, which makes him extremely sexually attractive.
Like I said, my last lady-friend was Vietnamese, and she came from and was raised to be part of a very patriarchal, male-dominated society. She liked to "serve" me, which on the one hand was delightful, but, when I offered to help out or serve her in some way, or when I asked her how SHE felt about something, it was almost like she didn't care and wanted me to figure it out for her. I felt very uncomfortable being in this position of having to figure out what a woman wants without any feedback or reinforcement. Perhaps I should lean toward American women-? When I simply made moves and tried to get what I wanted from her sexually, she called me "the devil". It was very confusing. Needless to say, she and I had our communication problems and this is probably the main reason it didn't work out.
It is not ones place to judge, or not judge what someone is choosing to live in/with.
Tossing out "that's what shelters are for" is utter nonsense.