Healthy Sex Support Group
This community is dedicated to an open discussion about healthy sex and sharing thoughts and feelings about sexuality and improving one's sex life. Most active adults desire to have an active and fulfilling sex life, both for themselves and also their partner. Here we discuss common sexual challenges faced by both men and women.
I tend to attract the ladies when I'm angry and aggressive. When I'm sweet and sappy, I don't get anywhere. Is this sick or normal?
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Hi, my name is Daniel. I'm new here. I'm gay, and nearing my 50s, and am desperately lonely. I have never been in love, and feel like it will never happen. I really don't know where to meet a potential match. I don't go to bars or clubs, because I can't drink and I have a profound, though not complete, hearing loss. I am a painfully shy person who has struggled to make friends. I...
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There's a happy brain wave factory somewhere in me. I've been trying to start it on my own, but it's just not igniting. I've tried lots of different tools. Sometimes I get a flame going, but it just doesn't last. Some people, so it seems, were designed to be alone or to be able to withstand being alone. Not me.It's been like this for so long. When there is a woman in my life -- or more frequently...
Throw a nice strong set of shoulders in there....kaPOW.
Sweet and sappy? Yeah, I'll get another dog.
I find men that are confident in their own abilities, appearance, the way they move, talk and deal with things attractive. Men that can respond back to a question/comment immediately with a quick-witted well thought out response showing intellect and humour, impress me beyond belief.
Arrogance to me, is another form or confidence. If you are GOOD and you KNOW it, why not carry yourself such? Why NOT exude an aura of confidence? How can this NOT be considered attractive?
This is purely connected to the animal world. The dominant beast is in charge of the pack. Nothing to do with abusive relationships.
Like I said.sweet and sensitive? Ill get a housepet.
I think it's sexy when my soulmate is aggressive and arrogant and confident in his superiority to assholes who deserve nothing better and espeically love it when he's feeling that way because of some perceived slight against me. Very manly, very protective, and very, very HOT.
But towards me, he's very sweet and sappy, which is just one of the many reasons that I love him with all my heart.
If he was only one way or the other, I doubt that I would be in love with him.
He's a perfect mix of all that a man should be, which makes him extremely sexually attractive.
Like I said, my last lady-friend was Vietnamese, and she came from and was raised to be part of a very patriarchal, male-dominated society. She liked to "serve" me, which on the one hand was delightful, but, when I offered to help out or serve her in some way, or when I asked her how SHE felt about something, it was almost like she didn't care and wanted me to figure it out for her. I felt very uncomfortable being in this position of having to figure out what a woman wants without any feedback or reinforcement. Perhaps I should lean toward American women-? When I simply made moves and tried to get what I wanted from her sexually, she called me "the devil". It was very confusing. Needless to say, she and I had our communication problems and this is probably the main reason it didn't work out.
It is not ones place to judge, or not judge what someone is choosing to live in/with.
Tossing out "that's what shelters are for" is utter nonsense.