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Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
If you dated someone you liked alot and they told you they were living with the Herpes 2 virus, would you continue to see them? Would you think up an excuse so you could get away from that person? Would it change how you felt about that person in any way?

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deleted_user
deleted_user
You know, this question goes through my head quite a lot. It would depend on how I felt about her. If I felt I could be with her the rest of my life, I might stay. But if there was a shred of doubt... I'm not really sure how I'd handle it.
Spiky
Spiky
Yeah, I would continue to see them. I would just take precautions. STD's are just a reality of having sex. Herpes 2 is manageable.

Hepatitis or HIV might give me pause but I wouldn't necessarily consider them deal breakers.
deleted_user
deleted_user
It would depend on how much I liked the person meaning can I see him as a life partner or not. If I knew there was no chance of us becoming life partners, probably not. If I could see us becoming live partners, I would talk to a doc about it to educate myself more on it, the risks and decide from there.

If I chose not to stay with the person I would not make up an excuse, I would be honest with him.

It would not change how I felt about the person.
deleted_user
deleted_user
That is a hypothetical question that I am glad I have not had to answer.
Whyme12
Whyme12
To me, I don't really think it would matter all that much. Having an STD doesn't make a person it is just a part of who they are and I find it very low when people hear that others are living with an STD and they judge them completely on that.

Of course having an STD is hard on all the parties involved but if both partners involved know about the risks of the STD I don't think it's that big of a deal.

Herpes has a very slim chance of being passed on when there are no outbreaks and if the person is on medication. I believe that I would continue to see them, and I wouldn't make up an excuse to get away. My feelings for that person would NOT change because they are still a human being and they need to feel that way.
MadameXXX
MadameXXX
If I liked them I guess I would stay with them.
BrokenEye
BrokenEye
If they were upfront enough to tell you, you can find ways to live with it :)
des10ed2b
des10ed2b
i suppose a lot of it depends on the amount of care i have for the person. I went through this with my husband before we were married. He has herpes-1 that has managed to get to his genitals. either somewhere along the line a girl with a cold sore gave him a blow job or when he had a cold sore of his own he touched it while spitting into his hand to masturbate. It was such a rare occurrence and so small that he always wave it off as masturbation friction or friction with underwear and working out, etc.

When he found out he was really upset and it took him a LOT to tell me. We had already been together well over 2 years at that point, so it didnt phase me. After that long, i didnt care anymore. I knew i wasnt planning on going anywhere and i certainly wasnt going to let a tiny spot or a cold sore keep me away from someone that i was deeply in love with and fathered my daughter (and later my son).