Healthy Sex Support Group
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Well being basically fairly a noob when it comes to various sex practices. The women I have been with have all been so Vanilla it is ridiculous. None were into experimentation, or anything even remotely non-traditional. I would like to try BDSM, wearing sexy revealing clothing out in public (even public flashing where she flashes me when no one can see, but there is a chance we could be caught), going to a nudist camp, etc.
Unfortunately the general mood of the women I was with is summed up by one of the later women... "I am not a whore so don't ask me again!"
Is there a way to bring your partner around to try new things and experiment? The same old stuff over and over gets boring. My present Girlfriend is basically as vanilla as the rest now, contrary to her youth when she pretty much screwed everything in sight and attended orgies and other things. Now the wildest thing she will go for is Anal occasionally. According to her, she did it, done it, bought the T-Shirt and doesn't want to do it ever again. Sigh seems like every time I get a girlfriend she has just recently changed her life completely and no longer wants to do any of the things she used to since she is tired of it. Unfortuanately not having done it, I am not and want to try everything.
Any suggestions?
Unfortunately the general mood of the women I was with is summed up by one of the later women... "I am not a whore so don't ask me again!"
Is there a way to bring your partner around to try new things and experiment? The same old stuff over and over gets boring. My present Girlfriend is basically as vanilla as the rest now, contrary to her youth when she pretty much screwed everything in sight and attended orgies and other things. Now the wildest thing she will go for is Anal occasionally. According to her, she did it, done it, bought the T-Shirt and doesn't want to do it ever again. Sigh seems like every time I get a girlfriend she has just recently changed her life completely and no longer wants to do any of the things she used to since she is tired of it. Unfortuanately not having done it, I am not and want to try everything.
Any suggestions?
If you have money get some sugar babes. Try seekinganarrangement.com. If not... Well, you live in/near Vegas where sex is cheap. Get a few girls round.
You have been repressed and feel distressed. Live for yourself for once and have fun. You have sooo much lost time to make up.
At the end of the day your SO lives interstate and you have missed out.
God the church has a lot to answer for
I'd give up on that. It sounds like she is rubbing it in your face considering she would be aware of your history.
(I had my share of rebound flings when I was younger, although nothing like as wild as you've described - I gave it up when I realised it wasn't really all that fun, and was only making me feel more depressed afterwards.)
If you like her company enough to want to work at the relationship, maybe you could both benefit from seeing a sex therapist and talking over your respective likes and dislikes. Of course you won't agree on everything, but maybe with help you can find enough common ground that you'd both be happy exploring with each other.
There are several swinger clubs here, but unfortunately they frown on single guys attending and want couples. My little married friend said she would love to go, and is open to pretty much anything, but until she decides to leave her husband has decided to refrain from having sex with anyone but him so we do not see each other intimately now. She is Bi and likes the fact that I would accept her having female lovers, where her husband doesn't. But there are two problems with her, I doubt she will ever leave him, she has kids (which like me more than their dad) and she is almost half my age so is quite young.
Anyway will check out the suggestions and see what can be done.
Unfortunately I lost my little crackhead friends phone number or I would call her. Buy her a small rock and she will do anything. LOL
Back when I was 42 had a brief fling with a 19 year old and she got me into Goth Music and lifestyle, Alternative bands and Heavy Metal. I had a ball with her, but the only problem was trying to keep up with her... ROFLMAO... So have trouble with women my age since they want to listen to oldies and I want to listen to modern music... LOL
Just saying ...
The BDSM goup here also prefers couples since they do not want singles to come in and disrupt the established couples (although again single women are encouraged to join).
I have had several women who have talked to me and seemed interested and things seem to be going quite well, until I bring up my interests and then after a few moments of silence they have something to do elsewhere and I never hear from them again. LOL