Healthy Sex Support Group
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So, here's the deal.
My fiancee and I have been together for just shy of four years. We have a two month old daughter who shares our room, and my sister rents the room right next to ours. Sex has dwindled.
The thing is, I would have sex more often if my fiancee would do foreplay! His idea of getting me in the mood is pinching my ass then grabbing my crotch and we should be ready to go. I tried to tell him that that's not working for me, and he got mad. He said it takes to long to 'warm me up'!
It's like he doesn't want to do the work to get the reward. So I have basically cut him off from the reward. It's not working as well as planned. You always hear those stories about how men will do anything do get it again....not mine. Instead he gets nasty. He whines to anyone who will listen that he's not getting laid and he makes cracks about going and getting it elsewhere!
How the hell do I get him to partake in foreplay?? He's okay if I do things to him, just not vice versa. I want sex to be good for me, and sometimes I need to be eased into it. No wham bam thank you mam!
My fiancee and I have been together for just shy of four years. We have a two month old daughter who shares our room, and my sister rents the room right next to ours. Sex has dwindled.
The thing is, I would have sex more often if my fiancee would do foreplay! His idea of getting me in the mood is pinching my ass then grabbing my crotch and we should be ready to go. I tried to tell him that that's not working for me, and he got mad. He said it takes to long to 'warm me up'!
It's like he doesn't want to do the work to get the reward. So I have basically cut him off from the reward. It's not working as well as planned. You always hear those stories about how men will do anything do get it again....not mine. Instead he gets nasty. He whines to anyone who will listen that he's not getting laid and he makes cracks about going and getting it elsewhere!
How the hell do I get him to partake in foreplay?? He's okay if I do things to him, just not vice versa. I want sex to be good for me, and sometimes I need to be eased into it. No wham bam thank you mam!
I think some men just get lazy about things when they start to feel too comfortable in the relationship ...................... my ex-husband got to the point where he'd be pretty much the same, just a crude grab at my tits or my pussy, and I'd feel like screaming at him to leave me alone. Not good.
I just want to say that my h used to do the same kinda thing to me. He would grab my breast. And be like ok lets go!
Finally i told him if thats all u got .I dont want it. We ended up talkin about it. He's way better about it now.
IDK that i would be wantin 2 get in on with my kid in the room either.
and my daughter is only 2 months, and due to space limitations she has no where else to sleep. But the bedroom isn't the only place for sex...my sister spends alot of nights at her boyfriends.
How can he be so insensitive?
How can he not want to give you the foreplay for you?
How can he not want to do the foreplay for him?
Where does he get off getting pissed off at you for suggesting it?
I mean for me the foreplay is vital for me as well as for her a full session may start with a maasage, then some heavy petting and kissing than sucking her neck and sucking her nipples, then move towards sucking in the whole breast, then give head, then start full intercourse normally at least 2 or 3 positions.
Your guy definately seems to be short changing you.
If! he doesnt respond then..just slowly move your ass and pussy down onto his crotch...tell him "MMMM That Tickles and Feels good!!"
:)