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Okay so some of you guys might have read about the hair thing well I guess I just need to vent and need some advice with how to deal with this
I've been seeing my boyfriend for about 3 months now and his mother is seriously over protective. I understand that he lives with them because he's not quite making enough money to support himself but i'm finding it hard to deal with this over bearing mommy.
He has his own room which you would expect of a 23 year old but when i'm over we aren't allowed to close the door. So we keep the door open which gives us little to NO privacy, she monitors what we watch. For example we aren't allowed to watch violent movies or tv shows like The Walking Dead and that's my favorite tv show. We aren't allowed to listen to any music that has any cussing. He's not allowed to drink and we are certainly not allowed to have sex (even though i have birth control and we use protection. She asks me to come over a couple times a week to spend the night but we aren't allowed to sleep in the same bed. She is very opinionated. He pays for all his own things but since he doesn't make enough he cant move out. We aren't allowed to kiss and GOD FORBID he touches my butt.
I have never in all my life been restricted SO much and its almost bring me to tears out of frustration.
What do I do say "I love you but its not going to work out because of your mother?"
I've been seeing my boyfriend for about 3 months now and his mother is seriously over protective. I understand that he lives with them because he's not quite making enough money to support himself but i'm finding it hard to deal with this over bearing mommy.
He has his own room which you would expect of a 23 year old but when i'm over we aren't allowed to close the door. So we keep the door open which gives us little to NO privacy, she monitors what we watch. For example we aren't allowed to watch violent movies or tv shows like The Walking Dead and that's my favorite tv show. We aren't allowed to listen to any music that has any cussing. He's not allowed to drink and we are certainly not allowed to have sex (even though i have birth control and we use protection. She asks me to come over a couple times a week to spend the night but we aren't allowed to sleep in the same bed. She is very opinionated. He pays for all his own things but since he doesn't make enough he cant move out. We aren't allowed to kiss and GOD FORBID he touches my butt.
I have never in all my life been restricted SO much and its almost bring me to tears out of frustration.
What do I do say "I love you but its not going to work out because of your mother?"
Face the fact - his mother is always going to be a big part of his life.. You have to either like it or leave it. Or persuade him to disrespect his mother. I don't think you want to do that do you?
But I'm sorry - my house rules are a bit more lax but - I own my house and my kids (19 & 21) live here. They aren't allowed boyfriends/girlfriends sleeping over and don't hang out in their bedrooms with their boyfriends/girlfriends. So, no sex in my house.
My room is close to the living room and I work shifts, sometimes I'm sleeping at 2 in the afternoon. Turn that shit off/down. Don't fucking sit and paw each other on the couch while I'm sitting in a chair because I feel that's rude.
My house - my rules. The dates they bring home are decent kids, that shit just doesn't happen.
And you didn't answer my question: Do YOU have a place to live? If so, why don't you invite him over to YOUR place?
If not, you're going to have to deal with Norman and Mrs. Bates.
I mean - you basically raised yourself, so you've determined what the rules and regulations are in your immediate environment. I'm actually the same, left at 15, my own place so I decided what the rules were....because you had your own mindset on what should and should not occur and this is so far off of it, maybe this is why you're having difficulties with this?
Just a thought.
And the hair thing sounds to me like she was simply struggling to find some bonding ground. She probably admires your hair and wanted to impress you by making it look nice, but her idea of that and yours are vastly different.