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Okay so some of you guys might have read about the hair thing well I guess I just need to vent and need some advice with how to deal with this
I've been seeing my boyfriend for about 3 months now and his mother is seriously over protective. I understand that he lives with them because he's not quite making enough money to support himself but i'm finding it hard to deal with this over bearing mommy.
He has his own room which you would expect of a 23 year old but when i'm over we aren't allowed to close the door. So we keep the door open which gives us little to NO privacy, she monitors what we watch. For example we aren't allowed to watch violent movies or tv shows like The Walking Dead and that's my favorite tv show. We aren't allowed to listen to any music that has any cussing. He's not allowed to drink and we are certainly not allowed to have sex (even though i have birth control and we use protection. She asks me to come over a couple times a week to spend the night but we aren't allowed to sleep in the same bed. She is very opinionated. He pays for all his own things but since he doesn't make enough he cant move out. We aren't allowed to kiss and GOD FORBID he touches my butt.
I have never in all my life been restricted SO much and its almost bring me to tears out of frustration.
What do I do say "I love you but its not going to work out because of your mother?"
I've been seeing my boyfriend for about 3 months now and his mother is seriously over protective. I understand that he lives with them because he's not quite making enough money to support himself but i'm finding it hard to deal with this over bearing mommy.
He has his own room which you would expect of a 23 year old but when i'm over we aren't allowed to close the door. So we keep the door open which gives us little to NO privacy, she monitors what we watch. For example we aren't allowed to watch violent movies or tv shows like The Walking Dead and that's my favorite tv show. We aren't allowed to listen to any music that has any cussing. He's not allowed to drink and we are certainly not allowed to have sex (even though i have birth control and we use protection. She asks me to come over a couple times a week to spend the night but we aren't allowed to sleep in the same bed. She is very opinionated. He pays for all his own things but since he doesn't make enough he cant move out. We aren't allowed to kiss and GOD FORBID he touches my butt.
I have never in all my life been restricted SO much and its almost bring me to tears out of frustration.
What do I do say "I love you but its not going to work out because of your mother?"
He ALLOWS this by living there. I understand he's an adult but those are the rules he must abide by there.
My ex and I were living together, had out own place, planning the wedding but when we went to grandmas cottage? He not only had a separate. Room, he had to be in a separate cottage! Lol
Everyone has a different set of morals.. You may think she is opinionated and she may think you are promiscuous. You'be got to see how the shoe fits on the other foot.
If you want the relationship to work between you and your boyfriend, I would think you and the mother would have to make some kind of compromises, but You are only in the relationship for 3 months. It may take a lot longer to get to know each other, and maybe a lot longer for you to get to know him..
Do you really love him after such a short period of time?
Oh and if my son 23 year old lived with me I wouldn't let him have women in his room unless they had been in a long term relationship.
My house, my rules.
Why does he not stay at your place instead then? Make a Sunday dinner visit there?
Maybe since I raised myself since I was like 15 I cant stand it.
don't walk.....RUN for the nearest exit and don't look back.
there are just way too many red flags here. cut your losses now, before you invest more of your heart and your time.
I'll also reiterate: Why don't you invite him to your place? Do you have a place to live?
"Mother, do you think she's good enough...for me? Mother, do you think she's dangerous...to me?"
"Mother won't let anyone dirty get through..."
This really does throw up a lot of red flags. I understand this is without a doubt her house, her rules. To me though it seems he would rebel even more when he does finally get out of there which could leave your heart in pieces.