Healthy Sex Support Group

This community is dedicated to an open discussion about healthy sex and sharing thoughts and feelings about sexuality and improving one's sex life. Most active adults desire to have an active and fulfilling sex life, both for themselves and also their partner. Here we discuss common sexual challenges faced by both men and women.

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vickycarter 09/09/2008

ok.
i have been with my boyfriend 2 and a half years and just lately. i hate myself for this but i have had to fake orgams, for some rreason he just cant hold it. he used to make me orgasm all the time but now i cant.

and dont know if anyone else has experienced this but if we havent had sex for a few days when we do he cum really quick and i mean like in a minute/

i really dont know what to do. im feeling constantly frustrated. i love him but its geting me down. i am a very sexually active person and ggggrrrr its really frustrating me.

deleted_user 09/09/2008

I give my bf a bj first, otherwise he goes pretty fast too. That's the only advice I've got..and there's cock rings and stuff like that, but I've never used any of them, so I have no advice on that

deleted_user 10/08/2008

Would he extend the foreplay for a longer time? Maybe also include toys or giving you oral. That might help prepare you. Could you teach him to masturbate you and not actually penetrate you with his penis until you are really ready to orgasm. Having intercourse with you a second time might also help. Perhaps you can bring him back to life with some oral on him. Doggy style may also be more stimulating for you.

LisaACOA 10/08/2008

Just a thought... if you are using a toy/vibrator frequently you might not want to use that as much. By not using it as much will help you to become more sensitive in the area.

deleted_user 10/08/2008

wow we are in the VERY SAME BOAT channing is the same way i love him so much but its very frustrating i would talk to him about it...maybe hes stressed or something like that...dont be to hard on him im sure it bothers him to ooo and i tell channing to hold it in and dont cum lol he does it now sometime he has to stop and give it a few seconds so he doesnt cum lol anyhoo i understand im in the same boat...just be patient he'll get better

deleted_user 10/08/2008

Tie a rubber band around his penis, way down the shaft.

deleted_user 10/08/2008

I agree with what crusty said, extend the foreplay so you get some enjoyment before the sex. Good sex isn't always about the sex! :)

deleted_user 10/18/2008

I would talk to him. Seriously guys are usually eager to please especially in bed.
One tip that would help would be to pick him a Kama Sutra book. The one i bought and my guy and i went through is awesome its called "Kama Sutra" by Tracy Cox.
Its very realistic, and it rates the positions and builds up the more crazy ones. And it has pictures and loads of tips and talks about sex in that culture.
Its helped us major! And my guy now can orgasm without ejaculating!!! So yeah, i LOOOVE LOVE LOVE this book. I recommend that to anyone and everyone!

deleted_user 10/18/2008

i agree with unanswered..talk to him, maybe foreplay is the ticket! i know ive got a better chance of makin my girl cum with foreplay, im cool with it, and she is too
btw..thanks unanswered..im gonna get that book!!!

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