Well I'm talking about the recent hook ups I've had with a guy. Yes, judge me if you want but I hooked up with someone for casual sex. I separated from my H and he was less than mature about it and cleaned out our accounts and cancelled our home phone etc and called me every name in the book so I hooked up with the guy I was telling you about.

I give amazing head so he says but I just want some in return but it's just sex so at the end of the day I guess it doesn't really matter

No judgement from me!

If you're not satisfied then it does matter. Does he know you want him to go down on you? If not, tell him.....he's not a mind reader. If he won't go down for whatever reason then you have the choice to continue with him and take what he gives you or dump him and find a fuck buddy who will give you want you want sexually.

Just because it's casual sex doesn't mean you have to go without having your sexual desires met.

There are many men out there who enjoying eating at the 'y'
I agree with Leather you need to be satisfied too,,, many women do get turned on giving a guy head but, women should get something in return too even if it's not at the same time as the 'complete' BJ., b/c some not all men are done for a long time after that for the day/night.
even if he can't give u his penis he could eat you out though.

ASK him if you haven't , why not a 69 you both get it at same time...

Also there's no judgement from me either, You haven't been happy with hubby for a long time & I don't believe it was only sex you weren't happy with him about.

My x wife actualy married another guy while we were separated not divorced.. But even before she married him I considered our marriage over long before I left her. She was a very negative person & hard to live with.

Thanks leather! Well I have stated to him that yes I want him to go down on me but not when we are in the actual throes of passion. He said he likes giving oral best when a girl pulls his head into the sweet zone and holds it there so I guess that's what I need to do. I just want him to go there without me pulling his head down there....

Thanks cowboy as well! I appreciate your feedback

Nope not judging
Just trying to follow what was happening

I am baffled that he didn't just do it!
He is sounding selfish!!

Well if we hook up again, which I honestly hope we do as I thoroughly enjoyed myself even without him going down on me, I will see how it goes. I will tell him I want that and if he doesn't reciprocate I'll move his head there like he said he likes. Honestly though I don't think I should have to ask. So far I don't consider him selfish, I'll see how I feel after future hookups :)

It sounds like he wants a bit of dominance with giving oral. Pushing his head down and holding it might be be a big turn on for him. Give it a try, see if you enjoy doing it. If it's not your thing, there's always room for compromise with his way at times, your way at times.