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My girlfriend has a rape fantasy that she likes to act out. She gives me the key to her house and I go over and hide in her bedroom closet. When she
comes home , I jump out and hold a knife to her throat and make her strip.
I use a butter knife so there's no danger of anyone getting hurt , but the cold steel makes it real enough for her. The role play is she's some kind of
important person that I couldnt get otherwise [ I play the role of worker who had come to her house earlier to fix something and found her irresistible.]
I know that in real life , rape is supposed to be about control , but in her game its about someone finding her so desirable that they must have her.
She has lots of other fantasies that I am willing to act out , but this one seems a little odd. It always leads to hot sex , so I go along with it .
I just wonder if its strange or do other people do things like this ?
comes home , I jump out and hold a knife to her throat and make her strip.
I use a butter knife so there's no danger of anyone getting hurt , but the cold steel makes it real enough for her. The role play is she's some kind of
important person that I couldnt get otherwise [ I play the role of worker who had come to her house earlier to fix something and found her irresistible.]
I know that in real life , rape is supposed to be about control , but in her game its about someone finding her so desirable that they must have her.
She has lots of other fantasies that I am willing to act out , but this one seems a little odd. It always leads to hot sex , so I go along with it .
I just wonder if its strange or do other people do things like this ?
From a legal stand point... as I am in the legal field... I feel the suggestions being thrown your way are good ones. You just never know.
I personally don't have rape fantasies or beat up fantasies but people might look at my lifestyle as me having them. I'm a BDSM'er, I'm a submissive, I have given control to my partner/Dom, he knows my hard boundaries and would never cross them. I love being restrained, pain stimulation done to me, flogging, him challenging my limits, the list goes on. He can have me any time he wants and in any way he wants, he never has to ask and he never does ask, he can just take. People can see him restraining me or taking me whenever he wants as being rape but it's not because I gave him that control and everything is consensual.
I also have my "safe word" if for some reason I need it stopped, using my safe word I know and trust him fully that he will stop immediately. Just as a FYI, I was into bdsm long before my rape occurred so my desires for the things I like has nothing to do with my being raped.
A safe word being respected, boundaries being respected, giving another person complete control, trusting the other person, no physical and emotional harm being done..........none of that is a part of real rape.
Different people have different turn-ons, have different likes/dislikes, different fantasies, different desires, engage in different sex-styles, different lifestyles but as long as it's done between consenting adults, everyone involved is enjoying it, there's no harm done to anyone then there's nothing wrong with it.
real rape, from what i understand (?), is not about sex but power.