Healthy Sex Support Group
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I am a woman and I had a question about oral sex.Women,in some cases,don't have a big problem with going down on guys,actually sometimes fairly early in the dating stages.My question is it different for guys.Does it take a while,on average,before a guy will go down on a woman?Is it more likely to happen when you know that woman is monagomous,meaning you are the only one that she is seeing or maybe its the length of time you have been dating her.And when a guy does do it,is it usually for and,with a woman that he has or is getting more serious about,meaning that he desires that she have a more pleasureable experience,overall?
I think a woman is more willing to give oral early on, because the intimacy level for her is small.
as for a man going down on his lady early, for me, I would most assuredly want to know I wasn't being a cocksucker by proxy. Would not make me very happy to know I just licked clean what Joe the Plumber had just deposited. As far as the serious aspect of this scenario, I think that would pertain to each individual man. Myself and others enjoy giving oral delights, but not sure it is tied to any seriousness with a relationship. JMO
Hope this helps.
I always want to go down on a woman when I am having sex with her, even the very first time. Oral sex for me is a big part of having sex.
What I've found, though, is that many women do not want me to go down on them the first couple of times we have sex. In pursuing the why for this, the reason seems to be that they think this is a really more intimate act than intercourse. This is not from the standpoint of trust or anything, it's more like they think I'm not going to like it and they want me more committed before I do that.
They often think they smell like "pussy" (which I think is a good thing) or that they look funny "down there". Often, if they are within like two weeks of their period they are very self-conscious although it doesn't make a difference to me.
So, to answer your question, I would go down on a women at least at the same time she would go down on me, but most of the women I've met would not let me.
i love both giving and receiving. i can do it for hours.
ive also been with men who dont want you to go down on them until theyve like 'served you first,' like they make it important that you get off first and will go down on you etc first, as in the womans orgasm comes first and is most important. these men are really sweet, and this is how i like it to be!!!!
Why would it be any different with sex?
In the warm, dark, moist environment under clothing it doesn't take long for bacteria to make things smelly. Also, toilet paper is only a stopgap measure until true cleansing can take place.
In the "metrosexual" thread, I said 'I shower before & after bed.' That holds no matter what time I go to bed! When I offer up the naughty bits, they are as clean as I can make them. I expect no less consideration from my partner.
It also serves to put her at ease about her own presentability with respect to smell & taste.
Showering together is wonderful foreplay! So much so that many times the 'after bed' shower simply leads right back to bed for round two!