Consider yourself lucky that your boyfriend feels that way to me he loves you and just is letting you know in his own way. I think it is kind of cute.

Well I don't know what the situation actually was, but yeah some guys do get jealous if other guys talk to their girlfriends.. But there is a fine line of jealousy and being overly possessive..

You have many questions about this relationship.. You have said his mom is very possessive.. You have said that he does things that irritate you - like not cleaning up, leaving lights on, etc.

Keep your eyes open to make sure this is becoming / leaning towards a healthy relationship. I would hate to see you get caught up in / trapped into a relationship like the one you had to run away from.

Check online for sociopathic behavior and see if he has a majority of the traits.. If so, run like hell now before you are running for your life again...

If he was mad mad than that isn't cool. You cant control other people. If he just seemed to notice and not like that the other guy seemed to be working ya thats normal.
Super jealous guys are an absolute nightmare! A little jealousy is natural but super jealous guys I personally would tell them to either get over their shit right away or drift. I have a crazy jealous spouse for 7 years and his obsessive jealousy destroyed our relationship.

The man who worked there WAS trying to pick you up. TWO conversations in TWO different parts of the store? Your boyfriend was RIGHT to be jealous. Guess then your boyfriend need work extra hard to retain your affections, eh?

How long have you been with your boyfriend? He sounds very possessive. That could turn into a real nightmare. Please be careful.

Maybe I'm just old and I've been married for going on 29 years..

but good gosh. I hug strange old men in the grocery store when I let them go ahead of me and they hug me.. ( maybe it's a Southern thing.. I don't know.. I also hug strangers in Costco )

.. and tomorrow is the Kentucky Derby which I am sadly not going to after going to 28 Derby's.. cause of my back surgery and I chose not to go. My husband is leaving early in the morning. My older son and his girlfriend are already up there.

If you knew how many strangers I have hugged and kissed ( on the cheek ) at the Derby.. umm.. alot. because it's all about the excitement of the day.

does my husband get jealous? NOPE.

because he loves me and knows I love him.. and we've been together for over 30 years. so maybe my reply isn't even relevant. I just know that when you feel SECURE in a relationship, stuff like people in Walmart or men at the Kentucky Derby don't matter and they shouldn't threaten what you have.

Life's too short . If your boyfriend has a serious issue with a guy in Walmart......then you have some serious issues beyond that.
just my humble opinion.

peace

LMT

Luv: They've only been together a few months, hardly enough time to be secure.

Kool, no disrespect, but we are talking about a Walmart EMPLOYEE talking to Fullmetal. Employees are supposed to be nice to the customers and it just seems to me that is what the situation was. Fullmetal said she wasn't flirting with the guy. In my opinion, it doesn't matter to me how long they've been dating. They weren't in a bar or a nightclub. That would be a totally different situation. This was Walmart. I get it that I've been married forever and ofcourse that's different and that's why I said my reply might not even be relevant... but this just seems wrong to me. I agree with Fullmetal that the guy was being friendly as an employee and in THIS situation I don't think it's normal for a guy to get jealous, but that's just my opinion. Also, when I've been to Walmart I have seen employees in different parts of the store, so not sure that is so uncommon is it?

Peace everybody

LMT

No LMT, it's not odd for an employee to be all over the store.. Though i dont work at walmart, I have been at the returns desk, taken a return from someone, seen them on the floor when I was putting things back on shelves and then checked them out at a register too. I usually get comments like - you are all over the place and often my response is, no I have been cloned.

I do think that boyfriend is being overly jealous.

Personally, I don't see what he has to get jealous about. If there was some unintentional flirting back (hey, it happens. we're all human) then he should have come to you respectfully about that. I'm of the mind that jealousy typically isn't good in a solid relationship. Jealous is the opposite of trust, and if he has trust issues with you, then that is something he needs to bring forward to you so you can work through them together. Not to mention the fact that, sometimes, guys are going to talk to you. It's a fact. Your boyfriend can't demand that another employee help you with whatever shopping needs you have and ensure they have XX chromosomes. If a guy is getting particularly aggressive with his flirting, then your boyfriend should step in. But harmless talking isn't something to get jealous over

When someone is jealous, underneath they are angry. Anger cones from feeling hurt.

I agree with some of the replies above...

However, I think it would have been a much healthier response from the boyfriend, to address it in a teasing manner.
"hey, that dude was checking you out He thinks you are hot! ! Too bad, he is out of luck. Because your hot and I get to be with you! because I am with you!

LMT, I think that is great.
It is the same for my parents who have always teased the other, when they see that they are noticing someone else or that somebody is flirting with them.. And I can remember it was that way when I was a kid too

My last boyfriend would say that he noticed men looking at me and he would comment. He is looking at you, because of that beautiful smile of yours! And smiling as he said it. . Lol he was proud. That would make me feel good. Not because the dude checking me out., but because of the compliment my boyfriend gave me.

We have spoken about it and he told me that ti doesnt bother him as much as it woukld if I were flirting back and I wasnt he even said I wasnt but he said that the guy should have been more respectful of the fact he was standing right next to me. He thinks a lot of guys flirt with me and I just think half of them are just being nice but maybe i'm clueless because he says men arent just NICE for no reason

No. You are not clueless.
There are many men who are nice and polite and helpful for no reason. Period.
Do we come across them often? Sometime,. No. But I have been witness to the kindness of men, young and old who were not flirting!

I just want to ditto what Nancy said on her replies . ( and thank you Nancy for what you said to me.. I can crush all over Adam Levine and Blake Shelton too and it's really no threat to my marriage.. lol )

Fullmetal, you are NOT clueless. I am not going to blast your boyfriend, but I honestly find it sad that he believes that to quote him

" Men aren't just NICE for no reason". That statement concerns me alot. I happen to know for a fact that alot of PEOPLE are nice because that is how they live their lives and without any agenda because it's just the way I hope that all of us want to live our lives. If he truly thinks that every man that is NICE to you has some kind of hidden agenda ( wanting to hook up ), I believe he has some issues he needs to adress. I hope you will take a close look at your relationship. It seems to me has some serious insecurities. I am not trying to be ugly in any way. I am much older than you. I would like to think that in your life you will come across many many nice men ( and women) who are nice because it's simply who they are. It certainly seems that you are one of those people.

I don't even see where there was any disrespect from the employee, but maybe I'm missing something. I wasn't there. At any rate, I would just add that I hope you always try to have open and honest communication with your boyfriend and that he can get over whatever these issues are that are making him so insecure.

Peace

LMT