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What were the circumstances around your first time? Here is mine. Difficult to believe but it is true.
I was about 22 years old and had even been married for a few months and been in the military and out. My first wife, my high school sweatheart and my first real love, turned out to be gay. At least that is what she said and now lives. Of course I was devistated, caused several serious thoughts of suicide and cut my military service short because of bad attitude and depression.
Anyway after I came home from the service I was dumb enough to think that maybe we would be able to get back together. Then one day as I was on my way to pick her up to go with me on a trip, I was driving cross country semi truck, she told me she had no intension to go. That she was only trying to make her latest girl friend jelous. Well I freaked out and just left in my old Opel Cadet station wagon with bad brakes and bald tires. I headed west thinking if I made it to my sisters in Oregon then I could stay there until I got my stuff together, if not I would deal with it when it happened.
I had stopped outside Medicine Bow Wyoming to check on getting one tire. Decided I did not have enough money and pulled back onto the interstate.
At the top of the ramp was what appeared to be a girl. She was wearing baggy clothes as to not look to good, she told me later. She had about 4 or 5 bags around her. I slowed down thinking I would stop if it was a girl.
She was very good looking up close. I picked her up and found out that she was on her way to Bremerton Washington. About 2 minutes into the ride she reached into her purse and pulled out this big knife and with one move put it into the glovebox saying I don't think I will need this. Scared the shit out of me when I saw it at first though. (I still have the knife to this day over thirty years later)
We started talking and hit it off right away. About 10 minutes into the conversation she started telling me about how her grandfather had taught her how to give bjs. Being a country boy from Amish country I thought that I had just died and gone to heaven. lol
Soon it got dark and she said that she was a military brat and that she had just left her husband because he could not understand why she needed to have sex with more than just him. (I really thought I had died and gone to heaven now) She said that she was going to live with a girl friend in Bremerton. She also knew a back way to get there that was much shorter. We left the interstate and later stopped at a hotel.
I went in to get us a room and when the clerk asked me for a room with one or two beds I saw this as my chance. I said one bed was fine. I then went to the car and told her that they only had a room with one bed. She said that was alright. Boy was I happy now!!!
She sujested we go in and get our stuff in the morning. I went into the bathroom first. As I lay in bed waiting for her to come out of the bathroom I could not believe what was happening to me. LOL
She cam out of the bathroom dressed and said "this is going to be awkward, I don't were underwear". I said no big deal trying to sound cool. Then she said no not a bra but panties. WOW..... She then took off her jeans and climbed in.
As I layed there thinking if I did not get some tonight I would never tell anyone because I would be so imbarassed to be in bed with a girl with no bottoms on and not get any.
She went to sleep. I of course was much to cranked up to sleep. I just layed there trying to think what I should do. I finally came up with a plan. I rolled towards her and flipped my arm over her thinking if she woke up I would appologize and act as it was an accident. She did not move. I layed there. Then I decided to put my hand on one of her boobs again thinking I would explain as an accident if she said anything. She still did not move. I thought that she was awaike not realizing that it had probably been a couple of hours sence we went to bed. lol I started to play with her nipple. Suddenly she said "what are you doing" I was scared to death and moved my arm and rolled back over and appologized profusely. Then she said "no don't stop that feels good". WOW this was great.....
One thing led to another and I lost my virginity that night......twice....LOL
The next day while driving she asked me if I fooled around. I, trying to be cool just said " who me? of course not".
Well a couple weeks later it finally dawned on me that she was asking probably because I was so bad and didn't even make sure that she was satified. I probably only lasted a couple of minutes each time. But I thought I was a realy stud. lol
When I dropped her off at her girlfriends house she invited me to stay and go partying with her, her friend and another couple that night. I only had about $15 in my pocket and thought that was just enought to get me to my sisters in Eugene Or. so like the fool I was I left. I forgot to give her back her knife when I left.
I wish to this day that I could find her because I think I owe her so much because of my inexperience. I have tried to find her several times over the years with no luck.
I hope this gave you a little laugh. I was such a nieve country boy then that I am sure this story is funny.
What is your story of your first time.
I really was 21 and had been married. Belive it or not.......LOL
I was about 22 years old and had even been married for a few months and been in the military and out. My first wife, my high school sweatheart and my first real love, turned out to be gay. At least that is what she said and now lives. Of course I was devistated, caused several serious thoughts of suicide and cut my military service short because of bad attitude and depression.
Anyway after I came home from the service I was dumb enough to think that maybe we would be able to get back together. Then one day as I was on my way to pick her up to go with me on a trip, I was driving cross country semi truck, she told me she had no intension to go. That she was only trying to make her latest girl friend jelous. Well I freaked out and just left in my old Opel Cadet station wagon with bad brakes and bald tires. I headed west thinking if I made it to my sisters in Oregon then I could stay there until I got my stuff together, if not I would deal with it when it happened.
I had stopped outside Medicine Bow Wyoming to check on getting one tire. Decided I did not have enough money and pulled back onto the interstate.
At the top of the ramp was what appeared to be a girl. She was wearing baggy clothes as to not look to good, she told me later. She had about 4 or 5 bags around her. I slowed down thinking I would stop if it was a girl.
She was very good looking up close. I picked her up and found out that she was on her way to Bremerton Washington. About 2 minutes into the ride she reached into her purse and pulled out this big knife and with one move put it into the glovebox saying I don't think I will need this. Scared the shit out of me when I saw it at first though. (I still have the knife to this day over thirty years later)
We started talking and hit it off right away. About 10 minutes into the conversation she started telling me about how her grandfather had taught her how to give bjs. Being a country boy from Amish country I thought that I had just died and gone to heaven. lol
Soon it got dark and she said that she was a military brat and that she had just left her husband because he could not understand why she needed to have sex with more than just him. (I really thought I had died and gone to heaven now) She said that she was going to live with a girl friend in Bremerton. She also knew a back way to get there that was much shorter. We left the interstate and later stopped at a hotel.
I went in to get us a room and when the clerk asked me for a room with one or two beds I saw this as my chance. I said one bed was fine. I then went to the car and told her that they only had a room with one bed. She said that was alright. Boy was I happy now!!!
She sujested we go in and get our stuff in the morning. I went into the bathroom first. As I lay in bed waiting for her to come out of the bathroom I could not believe what was happening to me. LOL
She cam out of the bathroom dressed and said "this is going to be awkward, I don't were underwear". I said no big deal trying to sound cool. Then she said no not a bra but panties. WOW..... She then took off her jeans and climbed in.
As I layed there thinking if I did not get some tonight I would never tell anyone because I would be so imbarassed to be in bed with a girl with no bottoms on and not get any.
She went to sleep. I of course was much to cranked up to sleep. I just layed there trying to think what I should do. I finally came up with a plan. I rolled towards her and flipped my arm over her thinking if she woke up I would appologize and act as it was an accident. She did not move. I layed there. Then I decided to put my hand on one of her boobs again thinking I would explain as an accident if she said anything. She still did not move. I thought that she was awaike not realizing that it had probably been a couple of hours sence we went to bed. lol I started to play with her nipple. Suddenly she said "what are you doing" I was scared to death and moved my arm and rolled back over and appologized profusely. Then she said "no don't stop that feels good". WOW this was great.....
One thing led to another and I lost my virginity that night......twice....LOL
The next day while driving she asked me if I fooled around. I, trying to be cool just said " who me? of course not".
Well a couple weeks later it finally dawned on me that she was asking probably because I was so bad and didn't even make sure that she was satified. I probably only lasted a couple of minutes each time. But I thought I was a realy stud. lol
When I dropped her off at her girlfriends house she invited me to stay and go partying with her, her friend and another couple that night. I only had about $15 in my pocket and thought that was just enought to get me to my sisters in Eugene Or. so like the fool I was I left. I forgot to give her back her knife when I left.
I wish to this day that I could find her because I think I owe her so much because of my inexperience. I have tried to find her several times over the years with no luck.
I hope this gave you a little laugh. I was such a nieve country boy then that I am sure this story is funny.
What is your story of your first time.
I really was 21 and had been married. Belive it or not.......LOL
My first time...
Well it was our first date and we had fooled around for awhile already, did some oral stuff like that but he could never fit into me so we just waited it out...so this really was my first time.
We had been seeing each other and hanging out about a month, became more than friends after knowing each other 2 weeks.
And he invited me to this farm festival, he introduced me nicely when we bumped into people he knew. Explained how he wasnt married anymore and NO i wasnt his kid to one couple lol.
As the night went we decided to head home ( i had a dumb curfew but he had got me a cell phone plan WITH him for 3 years already at this point, so my parents wouldnt nag or call the cops if i was late btw im 18)
So we were driving down the road me sitting right next to him in a 5 speed 1990 dakota pick up truck with a bench seat. I started playing with him (which he had me majorly sexually deprived all 15 years of his marriage, and had left his wife 5 months earlier and still hadnt got any besides me)
One thing led to another, and he asked me if i wanted to pull over somewhere, i said sure, but where? He found this abandoned dirt road we pulled in a few Kms and one thing led to another.
He asked me if i was sure...a few times. I told him yes....repeatedly lol. And thats was that.
It was intense, it didnt last long. But thank God it didnt because that shifter kept banging my spine and it hurt! lol Kept my mind off of him stretching me though. lol
So thats my story, and here we are 5 years later, i broke up with him quite a few times and i ended up getting busy with 2 other guys but i always came back to him. He knew how to do me right in more ways then one. And now were married, with one son whos 4 and baby #2 on the way.
She was, and is, the most gentle soul I've ever encountered, completely non-threatening, if anything, more scared than I was, said she was a virgin too (which, from her lukewarm behavior, I believe it).
It was the first time I ever REALLY kissed a woman, deeply, taking my time, gently smooching down into her breasts, sliding my fingers into her lap, massaging her pussy...she would then gently roll over into me when she felt the mood, and our bodies just fell into each other like a velvetty flesh tuxedy...GOD...
I'd get to the end of the movie, so completely engrossed in her, her soft smoothness and scent, that I cared less what was happening on the screen, and asked "what was that movie about?" She'd tell me. Guess she wasn't as into me as I was her lol. Very different culture, too, the Vietnamese. Catholic. Very strict, staunch and repressed.
Yes, one time we did this one row above some others in the cinema. I felt this dude down in the next row just waiting to turn around and scream at us for our sucking, smooching sounds...
Asians are so silky soft and pretty...
I arrived and there were already a lot of people there. I knew most of them cause we live in a small town. I was kinda tipsy when I found her, and she said she had something to show me. She took my hand and lead me upstairs to the master bedroom. I was tipsy and when I drink I get confident. She told me she wanted to give me a bj, so we did that. Then I told her I wanted to go down on her, but I also told her I was inexperienced. She said that was ok, and I went down on her.
Anyways, long story short, we ended up having sex... twice. She actually liked me enough to want to do it again. We ended up being fuck buddies, which was aces in my book ;) She was still the best lover I`ve ever had.