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What were the circumstances around your first time? Here is mine. Difficult to believe but it is true.
I was about 22 years old and had even been married for a few months and been in the military and out. My first wife, my high school sweatheart and my first real love, turned out to be gay. At least that is what she said and now lives. Of course I was devistated, caused several serious thoughts of suicide and cut my military service short because of bad attitude and depression.
Anyway after I came home from the service I was dumb enough to think that maybe we would be able to get back together. Then one day as I was on my way to pick her up to go with me on a trip, I was driving cross country semi truck, she told me she had no intension to go. That she was only trying to make her latest girl friend jelous. Well I freaked out and just left in my old Opel Cadet station wagon with bad brakes and bald tires. I headed west thinking if I made it to my sisters in Oregon then I could stay there until I got my stuff together, if not I would deal with it when it happened.
I had stopped outside Medicine Bow Wyoming to check on getting one tire. Decided I did not have enough money and pulled back onto the interstate.
At the top of the ramp was what appeared to be a girl. She was wearing baggy clothes as to not look to good, she told me later. She had about 4 or 5 bags around her. I slowed down thinking I would stop if it was a girl.
She was very good looking up close. I picked her up and found out that she was on her way to Bremerton Washington. About 2 minutes into the ride she reached into her purse and pulled out this big knife and with one move put it into the glovebox saying I don't think I will need this. Scared the shit out of me when I saw it at first though. (I still have the knife to this day over thirty years later)
We started talking and hit it off right away. About 10 minutes into the conversation she started telling me about how her grandfather had taught her how to give bjs. Being a country boy from Amish country I thought that I had just died and gone to heaven. lol
Soon it got dark and she said that she was a military brat and that she had just left her husband because he could not understand why she needed to have sex with more than just him. (I really thought I had died and gone to heaven now) She said that she was going to live with a girl friend in Bremerton. She also knew a back way to get there that was much shorter. We left the interstate and later stopped at a hotel.
I went in to get us a room and when the clerk asked me for a room with one or two beds I saw this as my chance. I said one bed was fine. I then went to the car and told her that they only had a room with one bed. She said that was alright. Boy was I happy now!!!
She sujested we go in and get our stuff in the morning. I went into the bathroom first. As I lay in bed waiting for her to come out of the bathroom I could not believe what was happening to me. LOL
She cam out of the bathroom dressed and said "this is going to be awkward, I don't were underwear". I said no big deal trying to sound cool. Then she said no not a bra but panties. WOW..... She then took off her jeans and climbed in.
As I layed there thinking if I did not get some tonight I would never tell anyone because I would be so imbarassed to be in bed with a girl with no bottoms on and not get any.
She went to sleep. I of course was much to cranked up to sleep. I just layed there trying to think what I should do. I finally came up with a plan. I rolled towards her and flipped my arm over her thinking if she woke up I would appologize and act as it was an accident. She did not move. I layed there. Then I decided to put my hand on one of her boobs again thinking I would explain as an accident if she said anything. She still did not move. I thought that she was awaike not realizing that it had probably been a couple of hours sence we went to bed. lol I started to play with her nipple. Suddenly she said "what are you doing" I was scared to death and moved my arm and rolled back over and appologized profusely. Then she said "no don't stop that feels good". WOW this was great.....
One thing led to another and I lost my virginity that night......twice....LOL
The next day while driving she asked me if I fooled around. I, trying to be cool just said " who me? of course not".
Well a couple weeks later it finally dawned on me that she was asking probably because I was so bad and didn't even make sure that she was satified. I probably only lasted a couple of minutes each time. But I thought I was a realy stud. lol
When I dropped her off at her girlfriends house she invited me to stay and go partying with her, her friend and another couple that night. I only had about $15 in my pocket and thought that was just enought to get me to my sisters in Eugene Or. so like the fool I was I left. I forgot to give her back her knife when I left.
I wish to this day that I could find her because I think I owe her so much because of my inexperience. I have tried to find her several times over the years with no luck.
I hope this gave you a little laugh. I was such a nieve country boy then that I am sure this story is funny.
What is your story of your first time.
I really was 21 and had been married. Belive it or not.......LOL
I was about 22 years old and had even been married for a few months and been in the military and out. My first wife, my high school sweatheart and my first real love, turned out to be gay. At least that is what she said and now lives. Of course I was devistated, caused several serious thoughts of suicide and cut my military service short because of bad attitude and depression.
Anyway after I came home from the service I was dumb enough to think that maybe we would be able to get back together. Then one day as I was on my way to pick her up to go with me on a trip, I was driving cross country semi truck, she told me she had no intension to go. That she was only trying to make her latest girl friend jelous. Well I freaked out and just left in my old Opel Cadet station wagon with bad brakes and bald tires. I headed west thinking if I made it to my sisters in Oregon then I could stay there until I got my stuff together, if not I would deal with it when it happened.
I had stopped outside Medicine Bow Wyoming to check on getting one tire. Decided I did not have enough money and pulled back onto the interstate.
At the top of the ramp was what appeared to be a girl. She was wearing baggy clothes as to not look to good, she told me later. She had about 4 or 5 bags around her. I slowed down thinking I would stop if it was a girl.
She was very good looking up close. I picked her up and found out that she was on her way to Bremerton Washington. About 2 minutes into the ride she reached into her purse and pulled out this big knife and with one move put it into the glovebox saying I don't think I will need this. Scared the shit out of me when I saw it at first though. (I still have the knife to this day over thirty years later)
We started talking and hit it off right away. About 10 minutes into the conversation she started telling me about how her grandfather had taught her how to give bjs. Being a country boy from Amish country I thought that I had just died and gone to heaven. lol
Soon it got dark and she said that she was a military brat and that she had just left her husband because he could not understand why she needed to have sex with more than just him. (I really thought I had died and gone to heaven now) She said that she was going to live with a girl friend in Bremerton. She also knew a back way to get there that was much shorter. We left the interstate and later stopped at a hotel.
I went in to get us a room and when the clerk asked me for a room with one or two beds I saw this as my chance. I said one bed was fine. I then went to the car and told her that they only had a room with one bed. She said that was alright. Boy was I happy now!!!
She sujested we go in and get our stuff in the morning. I went into the bathroom first. As I lay in bed waiting for her to come out of the bathroom I could not believe what was happening to me. LOL
She cam out of the bathroom dressed and said "this is going to be awkward, I don't were underwear". I said no big deal trying to sound cool. Then she said no not a bra but panties. WOW..... She then took off her jeans and climbed in.
As I layed there thinking if I did not get some tonight I would never tell anyone because I would be so imbarassed to be in bed with a girl with no bottoms on and not get any.
She went to sleep. I of course was much to cranked up to sleep. I just layed there trying to think what I should do. I finally came up with a plan. I rolled towards her and flipped my arm over her thinking if she woke up I would appologize and act as it was an accident. She did not move. I layed there. Then I decided to put my hand on one of her boobs again thinking I would explain as an accident if she said anything. She still did not move. I thought that she was awaike not realizing that it had probably been a couple of hours sence we went to bed. lol I started to play with her nipple. Suddenly she said "what are you doing" I was scared to death and moved my arm and rolled back over and appologized profusely. Then she said "no don't stop that feels good". WOW this was great.....
One thing led to another and I lost my virginity that night......twice....LOL
The next day while driving she asked me if I fooled around. I, trying to be cool just said " who me? of course not".
Well a couple weeks later it finally dawned on me that she was asking probably because I was so bad and didn't even make sure that she was satified. I probably only lasted a couple of minutes each time. But I thought I was a realy stud. lol
When I dropped her off at her girlfriends house she invited me to stay and go partying with her, her friend and another couple that night. I only had about $15 in my pocket and thought that was just enought to get me to my sisters in Eugene Or. so like the fool I was I left. I forgot to give her back her knife when I left.
I wish to this day that I could find her because I think I owe her so much because of my inexperience. I have tried to find her several times over the years with no luck.
I hope this gave you a little laugh. I was such a nieve country boy then that I am sure this story is funny.
What is your story of your first time.
I really was 21 and had been married. Belive it or not.......LOL
We got in my bedroom and she noticed I was shaking. I had to admit it was my first time. But soon after, we were having sex. We made it 3 times that night/morning. It was very enjoyable. She was from Angell Hall ( a dorm at the school).
But I got it over with and that is all I wanted at the time.
My real first experience ended up being with my 18 year old boyfriend in November of the same year, I had just turned 16. We were in the back seat of his little silver Mazda. (With the big back seat my friends would later say!) We ended up fucking on every flat surface in that car and his parents house for the three month whirlwind romance. He certainly changed my life for the better by making me comfortable with my body and sex.
Here's the kicker, when I was 4 my paternal grandfather taught me how to give a blow job. That could have ruined my life if I'd let it. I thought Brent was talking about me for a good part of his story. I hope somebody at least got a giggle out of my sordid tale.
Loving Kindness
I was 17, engaged to a guy I met on line and he made a trip to NC to see me. he was 18 and had no place to stay so I sneaked him into my room after my mom went to bed. After a few days of him being there we woke up one morning and one thing led to another. now we've been married 5 years.
After flirting with several girls in college who I found myself inept with (no game on my part), I finally got it on with a black girl in my condo just after my roomate finished fucking her (sleazy, I know, but I was a 33-year-old virgin and wondered if I was ever going to get any).
I had just bought one of the first-generation DV camcorders and she was turned on by the idea of being videotaped, so she came out in several scanty outfits and I filmed her, showing her herself on my TV. She got so turned on looking at herself, she invited me to sit next to her on the couch. She asked "would you like to play with my pussy?" I said "yes" and promptly pried the lingerie away to see her black cherry, clit bulging. I fingered away to her moans and slid one, then two, fingers in. She moaned away, then asked "would you like to have sex with me?" I said "yes", flew into my bedroom to grab a condom, came out, and she proceeded to give me a rough, animalistic blowjob, which felt good. She said "OK, it's hard", I slid the condom on and she climbed on top of me, riding me like a bull, very rough, bent my dick back the wrong way, I went limp and slid out, we tried doggie, which was nice, I was so fucking nervous I couldn't cum, she played with herself awhile longer, I felt her up from behind, which warmed her up again, then they left-! Weird, huh?
We did it in his PARENTS bed at his house while they were at work.
LMAO! he had his own bed so not sure why we used his parent's maybe because it was nicer and we were trying to make it romantic.
I bled...he had to hurry up and wash the sheets before they got home!
We used a condom.
Ahhh..... 1984.