It might have just been said in the moment too... I have said lots of things on the phone that I probably wouldn't do in reality... lots of things are sexy in theory or when you are just thinking about it that might not really be your thing in real life. Talk to him about it and see if it's something he'd really like to try.

Oh, Horatio. Maybe you and your wife need therapy. Because I know how it feels to be in a long-term relationship with someone who SIMPLY NOT LIKE SEX WHILE I L-O-V-E IT!

@Tantric, maybe.

thank you NWsinglemom...he brought it up again and it's definitely something he's into trying. Unfortunately I am unsure as to the fate of our relationship now. Such is life.

if it were me id just roll with it and c where it leads,but me im up 4 nething so itd b ur call.

ohhh n btw, u can ask whatever q comes 2 ur mind here. ull always get an answer o some kind. now whether u like the answer or not sometimes is a diff story.

I worried the same about my guy, Kate but I realized that a lot of men love to have their prostate massaged whether that's by a finger, a dildo, a tongue, whatever! I never imagined I'd be ok with mouth to ass contact. I'm such a clean freak, it was one of my absolute no-no's before I met this guy The Love of My Life :) He has an absolute ass fetish, which I enjoy on my part for sure. And giving him a prostate massage and hearing him moan and get off, making him feel that good makes me so happy and gets me turned on. Enjoy!

massagin a mans prostate n hearin him moan is truly a BIG turn on.

I'm curious...how do you know what the prostate feels like?

Kate, with a finger you can feel it by pressing on the front wall of the rectum, it's a bump about the size of a walnut.

thank you leather. I will remember that.

welcome to the group!

what he is asking is not really "gay" or anything like that. it is more so that he just wants you to be in control and THAT is what is so appealing. as far as anal play, the vast majority of men who try it enjoy it. men have a prostate and that feels good. it is the same as a woman enjoying having her g-spot played with.

give it a whirl! you may be surprised how much YOU enjoy it!

If I know he's enjoying it, I will definitely enjoy it. Thanks for everyone's advice. :)

I am going to go against Leather here and say that he probably IS thinking about being with men. The reason why I say this is because I had two bf's who would ask me to use strap on's on them and BOTH would tell me they were 100% straight and that I was judging them to be bi when straight men like ass play too. Just like leather said...however..low and behold..both men ended up cheating on me....with other men! So they WERE gay/bi whatever, they lied to me and they were using ME to experiment with before they jumped head first into homosexuality. Lot's of men do this to their gf's. Use them to experiment before they try the real thing. And I would be wary with the fact that your man said he only watches lesbian porn. This tells me that he definitely has something to hide because most real straight men watch regular porn with a guy and a girl. Kind of like when men are super homophobic, it means they are really trying hard to run away from their feelings.

I have no doubt that's true with some men but certainly not all men.

Partner isn't bi nor gay, he's had a few opportunities to be with bi or gay men which he passed up because he has no interest in sex with men. We're very open with each other and talk about everything and anything, no hidden secrets or fantasies.

A friend of his is bi, the friend and his wife lived with partner for about 6 months and often offered him to join in with them, he wasn't interested because he doesn't cross swords.

He knows I would not have a problem with it if he was bi and wanted to get it on with a guy, I think 2 men getting it on is hot. He knows it's a fantasy of mine.

Same with Stbxh, we've been married for 33 years and although he didn't want me do him with a strap-on, he loved anal penetration done to him with fingers and dildos. After 33 years together, I can assure you Stbxh is not bi or gay.

The same as Stbxh and my partner both know I've been sexual with women and neither of them ever had a problem with it, they both know if they were ever with or wanted to be with a man it wouldn't be a problem for me.