yep...just one though. we were best friends before we dated, and we didn't break up on bad terms...we were both just too young and immature. We e-mail each other once in awhile.

Yep my first EX wife and I are good friends. We e-mail, talk on phone and have breakfast together every now and then.

Nope.

I do have to talk with one of them BUT I do the talking through her girlfriend (it's really fucking ridiculous and sad TBH) They still need to send me my storage key.

To me, the past is the past...plus, they truly aren't deserving of my friendship....the last 2 I have had, one was a headgamer and one was just nuts. Neither are worth the time of day.

yes I do. It's always nice to end on good terms. Leaving on bad terms such that you can't even talk to them makes me feel soo empty.

and strangely enough, i'm very close friends with my husband's ex-wife. Really is the best way...since she is the mother of our children...

The first wife took off out of state right after i won full custody of the kids. She tracked me down via myspace and wants to know how the kids are but erfuses to come back to the state to either pay back support or face the music.

The latest stbx is an emotional child and will not talk to me at all because i guess she feels she was so hurt by a monster such as me.

As for the women i've dated since leaving her, yes,i keep in touch with a few of them and remain friends.

I ran into an ex back in January that I would love to keep in touch with but his girlfriend was against it. My husband was cool with it all, he suggested inviting them over for UFC but we were never able to. His girlfriend had never meet me but he told her that I was his first true love and that I was the reason he changed his life around. Guess she felt I was a threat. He and I were good friends before we dated. She even found me on myspace and sent me some horrible messages. I found them funny.

My x husband is one of my very best friends...

We always were friends...just not good lovers...

We talk daily...even ask eachother advice on our current SO's...

Most of the SO candidates in my life are severly threatened by my relationship with my X husband...but we have kids together so we need to be civil if not friends...for the sake of the children...

Well, they seem to always come back...for the most part any break ups I have been a part of have been peaceful, except for the STBX...lot of resentment there so it is not pretty. But as for "boyfriends" I have lost contact with a few...and some still drop a line from time to time.

that's a good point, Lizzie. It seems like parents are "joined at the hip" until at least the kid turns 18 and maybe longer than that.

My stbx can burn in hell for all eternity for all i care.

LeftWing: Divorce is not TRULY possible when children are involved...

You are still involved with their respective parent. In order for the child(ren) to not grow up so completely f-ed up...it is really important that the parents continue to have a positive impact on the lives of the kids. This means an amicable relationship for the parents...

My end game: When (and If) my children get married. I dont want them to feel like they cannot invite their parents and their parents SO's/spouce. When (and If) they have their own children...Id like to be there...and there father should be there.

Nothing that we do, good or bad, changed the ABSOLUTE fact that a child loves their parents...all we do as parents is to make that child feel torn and bad that they innately love their parents...

Ive lived it. I wont put my kids through it...no matter what pride I have to swallow or what I have to rise above...NOTHING is worth my kids growing up feeling as if they are being undermined by one of their parents...

I have to see my ex on a daily basis because of the girls. Was very difficult when he first left me. Now it's not a big deal

My mother-in-law has not been married to my father-in-law in 26 years but when they remain friends. She takes him to the MD and even bailed him out of jail. His gf calls her and talks to her. Also one of his other ex-wives who he has kids with calls her all the time.

Very strange situation.

I talk to one of my exs about once a month, but everytime it turns sexual and he wants to meet up with me. Something I will not do, so I don't call him he calls me.

that's well said, Lizzie.
as I said, parents are joined at the hip (not always but usually)