I agree, having sex makes you vulnerable; both physically and emotionally. I dont think it is something that should be done with little thought. Although, I have had those feelings, I would never act them out with a stranger.

Thats odd,I had exactly the same conversation with someone last night. I totally agree there kool

Wow! It's great that we're not totally wild freaks.

Theres only 3 of us so far,so theres a chance we still could be,lol

I enjoy the emotional comfort
I have issues with my body - am vain as hell and this disease has just fucked it up bad so having that emotional closeness sort of reasures me that I can strip down and not be judged.

I think I have only done I want to jump your ass thing once and I was alot younger

yea.. I guess the same is true here.. although i have had my moments (but they were people I knew as friends)

hmmm..yes.. usually need the emotional comfort.

I went through a phase where I felt all I wanted was physical comfort. I had never been through that horny teenager, carefree, experimental stage until my mid 20s.

I simply didn't want committment. I was numb, and wasn't ready to feel nuzzly and cuddly with anyone. I NEEDED control, and disconnection.

I'm past that phase. I'm ready for the intimacy. I'm ready for the emotional connection. I'm ready to LET someone comfort me, and I'm finally in the right state of mind to be someone's emotional comfort.

It's been a learning, evolutionary process, but I'm right where I want to be. :)

Okay, sorry, enough about me.

Carry on.

Interesting, folks! I never quite got all the way with my last Vietnamese honey (a nice Catholic girl)--I certainly didn't/don't have any issues with MY body (except that my skin is very white), but she didn't want to strip, so we sort of "dry fucked" and fondled each other with our clothes on--strange, eh?

the mutual respect,trust and admiration of a comfortable relationship makes the love life so much more unforgettable
Im way to old for one night stands anyway

"It takes me a little nuzzling and cuddling, knowing that there's some "soul" - Are you trying to tell me something Koolman lol?

I'm a little like steph, waited a while until I got into sex. Now it's not a priority or anything, but it's nice to have. I would like a relationship but those seem to be elusive, atleast to me.

"Wanna f***" is a bit direct, try "Fancy a shag"....it works ;-)

I didn't find out I was a freak in the bed until a couple of years ago. I think it took time to be comfortable with myself and him. Now, it turns out...all of the women in my family are freaks!!! Weird...

"Don'tcha wish your girlfriend was a freak like me...?" LOL

I have heard the one

"wanna get a pizza and f***?"
"what? you don't like pizza?"

then again... when my hubby says stuff like that, it turns me on. I guess we got the emotional comfort thing and can move on to the cheezy lines. LOL

Im with you Koolman...we're all human and except for the rare few, none of us like rejection much...emotional closeness and connection are 2 huge factors in any relationship...they make the difference between making love and fucking (not that you cant do both with the same person)...and they make it much easier to grab your partner by the scruff, look em in the eye and ask them Wanna fuck?....