Healthy Sex Support Group
This community is dedicated to an open discussion about healthy sex and sharing thoughts and feelings about sexuality and improving one's sex life. Most active adults desire to have an active and fulfilling sex life, both for themselves and also their partner. Here we discuss common sexual challenges faced by both men and women.
I havent had sexual intercourse with my spouse of over 14 yrs, for ovwer a year now!! I do perform oral sex on him, about once a month.
The whole thing kind of started with me getting my Hep C Treated, and I got rid of it, and my spouse still had it, but then recently, he did get Treatment also, and I find out if he is cured, around next week....and if he is cured, I will have no excuse for not doing "the push push".
The thing is....I have become so comfortable with being practically celibate. I used to masterbate, but stopped that also, I am way rusty with sex, and I am old: 51 yrs old. Should I force myself to have sex, or what?
I am thinking...I have never used a vibrator, but maybe now is the time? My spouse has always pretty much not been interested in me having an orgasm, and I think I should push the issue: he can give me an "O" easily with a vibrator, and then I may be able to perform easier, and be warmed up, plus it would be fun, becuz we have never used any kind of "sex-toy"....I'm just trying to work up to this idea: having sex. And when to do it, right after the kids go to school probably, before I am too exhausted and depressed, from doing all this friggin house-work.
I have been clean from a meth addiction, for 14 yrs now, but still have a strong association with sex and meth. Meth fueled sex was so much more intense....meh
The whole thing kind of started with me getting my Hep C Treated, and I got rid of it, and my spouse still had it, but then recently, he did get Treatment also, and I find out if he is cured, around next week....and if he is cured, I will have no excuse for not doing "the push push".
The thing is....I have become so comfortable with being practically celibate. I used to masterbate, but stopped that also, I am way rusty with sex, and I am old: 51 yrs old. Should I force myself to have sex, or what?
I am thinking...I have never used a vibrator, but maybe now is the time? My spouse has always pretty much not been interested in me having an orgasm, and I think I should push the issue: he can give me an "O" easily with a vibrator, and then I may be able to perform easier, and be warmed up, plus it would be fun, becuz we have never used any kind of "sex-toy"....I'm just trying to work up to this idea: having sex. And when to do it, right after the kids go to school probably, before I am too exhausted and depressed, from doing all this friggin house-work.
I have been clean from a meth addiction, for 14 yrs now, but still have a strong association with sex and meth. Meth fueled sex was so much more intense....meh
Has the Interferon made us "people unfriendly"? I notice I am a bit more uptight (to say the least) then I was prior to treating. I have to try rly hard NOT to be a bitch.
I just feel like sex is something I already did....it's over with. But part of me wants to try again. I am ambivalent about the whole thing, plus it's hard to be attracted to someone I've been with since I was 37 yrs old. Like you mentioned, I have gained 20 lbs in the last 14 yrs, and he has gained....50 lbs, so I am wondering if sex is even possible? lmao...and what if I give him a heart attack???
http://www.metacafe.com/watch/an-n68Vb2Y7bh2mm/austin_powers_the_spy_who_shagged_me_1999_fat_bastard_steals_austins_mojo_part_2/
Got My Mojo Workin
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8YlE_pLwU_0
Surely a deep red Merlot wine will create a comparable intense high for sex to meth! Don't go back to that shit.
I found a free cute book on ipad - it's called sexy challenges. something like that might give you some ideas for things you can do in order to put a spark between you again.
The "closeness" is what I am having trouble with, though. I began building this wall around myself, becuz my Hubs gets drunk about once a month, and acts like another person, a person who is a crazy a-hole, who plays horrible old music from The &0's, way too loud. I am that sick of Sweet Judy Blue Eyes.....grrr!
I have built a wall of resentment, but I feel like it may not be healthy, not sure. I do like being celibate though.......
Celibate I beeee...