The whole site is completely dead. Very different three years ago. Not sure why they even keep it up now.

Honestly when I visit this group it's either a man whose wife won't have sex with him because she is depressed, or a woman who can no longer have sex with her husband because she is depressed.

And! These are very legitimate things for people to discuss! But it's tiring for me to hear the arguments over and over. There's always, ALWAYS women who say "suck it up and have sex with him even if you don't want to, sorry hon, that's marriage" (which I DON'T agree with) and men, well, basically saying the same thing. "You might be depressed, but men have needs," etc etc.

So I don't know if we should create other groups to better fit people's needs or find some way to stimulate other parts of the conversation. Then again I shouldn't consider it such a chore to come tell people over and over that depressed women need to take care of themselves and DO NOT owe their men sex. Apparently A LOT of people need to hear it!

That's my rant lol. Sorry/thanks for reading :)

Is ok. I am excited another is still here. Rant away. :)

Haha :) Maybe we could suggest topics or ask questions to get some discussions going. There is so much to talk about in the realm of healthy sex, and lots of resources, too.

i do try, but rarely get them started. I will keep on plugging though and hope you do too. :}

Good luck ladies. The other six groups I have joined are even less active than this one.

You are not alone. Maybe the 3 day weekend has everybody out in the weather. Rainy here!

Guy here, sorry queen. I occasionally read posts here and I am feeling what ninja-T has pointed out. I would like to see some positive thoughts. Because, let’s face it, can there be healthy sex without a positive attitude? Or healthy anything for that matter. And it may be for some a feeling of ; when I have some good sex, I’ll be positive. I have been there and it doesn’t work that way. As I become more mindful of my emotional health and embrace a healthier lifestyle I become more attractive to my partner. Seems obvious but it took me a while to get that. It’s work, no way around it. The effort my partner and I are putting into being honest with ourselves just naturally spills over into our relationship. And we have something interesting to talk about. That’s (among other things) is sexy. So maybe one or the topics towards this goal can be learning to be positive and present. Which is fun and comfortable to be around. Right?

Well Veggiequeen, you aren't the only female here any longer :)! I just joined, and my partner and I will be very active in the group, I hope. We are teens though, and lesbian, and will be coming out at Pride on June 23rd. So, no, you are not alone anymore.


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