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Am I or Aren't I ?

RockNMetalChic
RockNMetalChic
Lately i've been thinking i might be a bi sexual and i just would like some opinions from this group- i have feelings for one woman and omg- she is gorgeous- she has sparkling blue eyes- looks like a chubby version of faith hill and her name is Karen- i know for a fact that she is a bi sexual - and she says she likes me too- only there is no way we can ever get together cause well ...... thats a long story i'll just say we both shared her hubby for like 7 months- ok so let the bashing begin now.... i shouldn't have said that..... but anyways - does this mean i'm bi? i'm so confused- never felt this way for a woman before- but karen is just so pretty - i looked at her in the eyes and smiled and told her so and she says so are u brandi....... and i wanted to do more than hug her....... don't get me wrong i love my new man scott and i hope to marry him someday - but i can't help thinking- if i was to get with karen- would there even be a scott ? opinions here people ! i need advice !
deleted_user
deleted_user
Never been in a situation like that, but i would have to agree with Steph as well. You've got to let your feelings be known to everyone involved, including Scott. It seems that Karen is already aware of your feelings and wanting to be "with her" ,but that's a no go unfortunately according to her, right ? And you do have to respect that. Where else you go from here...that's up to you hon. I mean, i've been attracted to other WOMEN while married, like i am now, but there's no chance their either, it's a matter of loyalty and trying to remain faithful.
Best of luck to you hon :)
deleted_user
deleted_user
you made the right decision babe. I have been there before and I made the biggest mistake.:/
RockNMetalChic
RockNMetalChic
just an update for everyone - i am letting these thoughts about Karen go to the back of my mind and i will admire her but not act on them- Scott and i are going ahead with our plans of moving in together and getting closer to each other ...... i can't wait ! should be together by the summer or sometime afterwards! :) and i might even get to see him on spring break- go me ! woo hoo!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Well, we don't choose who we're attracted to. Every once in a blue moon I'll see a woman who does it for me, but it's never come to anything so I can't really call myself bi. (And I'm not going to turn into one of those f***wits who claim to be bisexual just to get male attention.)
If the right opportunity came up at the right time, yes that would be cool, I'm just not really worried about giving it a 'label' :)
bigguy3
bigguy3
It's ok to find other people attractive ... but if you are in a committed relationship you can't act on that attraction. Plus, it sounds like the drama around Karen is BAD news. Admire from afar but don't let it interfere with your ability to have a good relationship with Scott. I find several young starlets very attractive but know that pursuing them is out of the questions.