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RockNMetalChic 03/01/2008

Lately i've been thinking i might be a bi sexual and i just would like some opinions from this group- i have feelings for one woman and omg- she is gorgeous- she has sparkling blue eyes- looks like a chubby version of faith hill and her name is Karen- i know for a fact that she is a bi sexual - and she says she likes me too- only there is no way we can ever get together cause well ...... thats a long story i'll just say we both shared her hubby for like 7 months- ok so let the bashing begin now.... i shouldn't have said that..... but anyways - does this mean i'm bi? i'm so confused- never felt this way for a woman before- but karen is just so pretty - i looked at her in the eyes and smiled and told her so and she says so are u brandi....... and i wanted to do more than hug her....... don't get me wrong i love my new man scott and i hope to marry him someday - but i can't help thinking- if i was to get with karen- would there even be a scott ? opinions here people ! i need advice !

soulsearcher83 03/01/2008

I honestly wouldn't even look at it as a question of, am i bi? The real question is is scott right for you if you don't think he will be in the picture if someone else comes along?

I have wondered every now and then if I was bi bc i personally find the female form way more beautiful than the male form. And I've seen women and felt an attraction, but I don't know if it is sexual. Is this the first woman you've felt this way about?

deleted_user 03/01/2008

I am in somewhat of a similar situation, minus the hubby sharing. Which I won't bash you for. I let my ex boyfriend share me with our roomate, so, I have no room to talk. Anyway, are you sure that it isn't just all physical attraction? Because I have met a lot of girls that think they are bi, particularly around our ages and under. But it all turns out to be something different. Like, my ex said I was the only girl she had ever liked in that way, and later it turns out she isn't even bi and she was having issues with her boyfriend and looking for love elsewhere.

deleted_user 03/01/2008

My beautiful (had to throw in lol) GF is married tho hubby and I are not involved we make it work 99% of the time.You wont know until you give it a shot but be up front with everyone involved including Scott

RockNMetalChic 03/01/2008

yep first woman i've ever felt this way about- and i wouldn't leave scott for another man- but if this woman would give me the chance i honestly think i'd jump at it and go for her- she's beautiful and it scares me cause i've always been attracted to men- and i don't know what to think ....

deleted_user 03/01/2008

Dont let it scare you. . Its not the run of the mill thing for most that are of straight orientation but it sometimes crops up later in your 20s and thirtys instead of in your teens or earlier

deleted_user 03/01/2008

agree with raven. if u want to have a try with this lady, be honest and upfront with everyone involved, so no one gets hurt later. and there are no secrets.

as for being bi, dont know, you can be attracted to a woman or curious, but does not make you bi, that is for you to decide though

RockNMetalChic 03/01/2008

i have no chance of ever being with Karen- she hates me - (for good reason) and i don't blame her- its just something about her- i'd love to just sit and talk to her and look at her all day ! her hubby says she has no personality- but that is just so hard for me to believe when she is so pretty and we've had many phone conversations- i'll admit i've called her and left messages a few times just cause i wanted to hear her voice ....

soulsearcher83 03/01/2008

I'm confused. You first said that she told you she liked you, but in the last post you said she hated you?

RockNMetalChic 03/01/2008

she likes me physically but hates me emotionally- she has said if i didn't betray her- she would've rocked my world.... sorry i confused u...

deleted_user 03/01/2008

I think that you have to see for yourself other wise you wont know.

deleted_user 03/01/2008

GO slow and allow for a back out... It doesnt have to be a life changing event, if you dont let it or want it too. Sounds like you want to go there so go... Life is short...

deleted_user 03/01/2008

I'm with KField on this one!

deleted_user 03/02/2008

Now your at a time in your life were you need to make choices hon... If you cheat on Scott it will hurt him do you see yourself having a future with Karen? You just have to sort out your relationship priorities now. What if the girl doesn't feel the same? I think you should just admire her from a far. Enjoy Scott and get married. But if you want to experiment you can't frag someone else along for the ride it's not fair. It will be devastating if you make a mistake. I wish you the best of luck dear.

RockNMetalChic 03/03/2008

Thanks for all the advice Ya'll i'm gonna go with Reply #13 and admire her- and just go for Scott..... kinda sad today though- just found out Karen was beaten by her hubby yesterday and that makes me want to go up there and beat him- but she won't get out of the situation and i guess if she doesn't want the help i can't force it- once again thanks for all the replies- much luv to u all !

koolman 03/03/2008

As a "lesbian in a man's body", I can certainly understand your attraction to this (or any) woman--women are so beautiful! I guess you already know you have powerful feelings for this Karen, and it's just a matter of whether you're willing to trade whatever feelings you have for Scott for her. Or maybe Karen will just be an "experiment". Or, who knows--maybe Scott would be up for watching (I would)! I dunno; tough call.

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