Ive read all three books..
In the books they establish saftey boundries
I doubt that 50 shade can or will cast a negative light on the lifestyle..
It is coming out as a movie because the books were a major success

I think it was probably more women that read and raved over it than men but hell i dont honestly know that ....
And i doubt that it would cause a major influx in the amount of people who actually try the lifestyle rather than just fantasizing about it either...

I think its safe to say we'll all be fine....and you (the doms and dommes ) will be too :-)

How does a person that might have an interest in the BDSM type encounters get started?

yeah, i read the books. but i found them to be the literary equivalent of comic books. entertaining, but simplistic. i will not be seeing the movies.

bth that's a good question. Checking out a local club or dungeon in your area is probably a good place to start. And by all means ask lots and lots of questions. Also the website FetLife is a very good source of information. I hope that helps. Freakchic I hope you're right. It would be nice for the movie to have its time of popularity and then pass on into obscurity. Thanks for the encouraging reply. : )

new drake - what sort of things do you get involved in with females?

I have done some bondage , age play , various forms of impact play (spanking, flogging and paddling). I use various sex toys for their gratification and as a reward. And always everything is mutually agreed upon with some talking before any play or scene is ever attempted. Responsible people will always stress the need for knowing each others limits and using safe sex when sexual contact is involved. I hope this helps. And please know I am still pretty new to the lifestyle. So any of what I've just told you is fairly new knowledge that I have acquired. There is a lot more for me to learn. I wish you luck if you choose to investigate it.

I thought the books were awful. Nothing more then Mommy porn and they seemed as though they were written by someone who only read up on the subject -
Maybe she should have made his family a little richer, a little more over the edge - yeah that would have made it more believable.
And it was SO believable that a virgin would know just what to do and be so so comfortable doing it.. Yes Des, comic book fantasy at its finest! 8-)

Oh Leather - I miss you so much....

It was definitely elementary type writing , but did u read all three viv?
She wasnt experienced ...not at all. He taught her what to do, she was never comfortable with it and in the 3rd book if i remember correctly they stopped.
Not positive tho on that last part i read them all back to back and stayed up 3 straight days to do it ...when they first came out. Long time ago...

Newdrake haha yes i believe that your scenario is how it will play out....

Ive never really done the " hard core" bsdm stuff...i dont think...i mean, ive been spanked...even with a paddle and cat o nine, but never realy got into it into it.....
I am a dom myself though. Ive always been the dominant one, not for need to control , it is just natural for me and just slips out. I cant help it. But i can switch and on rare occasions with past men i would...
But for the most part in my current relatinship of 6+ yrs i am submissive. Always.

My wife read the first book. Said it was corny. I'm not a dom but play one every once in a while. Just the light stuff, bondage, role playing and spanking. :)

the thing is that christian was not what i would actually call a dom, he was more of a sadist. he even flat out says that he enjoys hurting little brunette girls because they remind him of his mom. not at all healthy sex play. although it is cute that ana tries so hard to fulfill his urges, it is not done well.

i would not say that we are "in" the bdsm lifestyle, but we do little stuff. we have bed restraints, blind-folds, my husband loves to spank me. either with a hand or with a belt. on the flip side of the coin i love edge play. but these are things that we ENJOY. it isnt something that we are doing to hurt each other.

freak, no I never got to the third book. I was so turned off by the middle of the second book that I couldn't be bothered.

There is so much better writing out there on the subject, which seems to get the facts and all aspects of the lifestyle correct - but Hollywood would never put a movie out like that..(save that for the porn industry)

This one is ok because all it does is skirt around the subject, just like the movie will.

And newdrake, I think that all the movie will do is allow couples to get their kink on - because it's in a movie so it must be ok to do...

OH man I read the first book .....started the second and just could not get through it.
The writing was terrible and the story was SO far fetched!

EVERY TIME they have sex the girl has an AWESOME orgasm! Even if they just did it 3 times that day. So unrealistic!

If the writing or the movie comes across as mediocre porn, that's probably because it is. The posters who emphasize the safety rules are right. These types of activities must not be engaged in by amateurs or people who want to inflict real pain. Between consenting adults, and with safety rules in place, it can be interesting sex play. And it's better suited to fantasy than acting out. It should be acted out only with a partner you really trust and who knows what he/she is doing!

Amen LivingWater I totally agree. I need to get back into my reading. I've only to date finished the Topping and Bottoming books. I hear good stuff about Spare the Roses Give me the Thorns. I think I will try that one next. Also this was just my personal preference but as a starting Dom , I bottomed a bit to have a first haand experience from a submissive's view point. I felt that for me personally I would not be worth my Leather if I didn't do that. And it did really help me to understand the different aspects of the submissive's experience. Of course it only gave me insight to a certain degree. There is still much I need to learn. And yes I have a mentor of sorts. She is very patient and presents herself as a helpful friend more than a teacher. I really appreciate what people have so generously shared with me in this lifestyle.

I need to see the movie , unfortunately . Anything literal or visual that makes me feel that fantastic forceful , hard play is worth it to me . I am so fucking horny , even this probably mediocre movie will keep me needing and wanting more . Where the hell is my Dom ? If I could only find a patient , kind experienced master to play with I believe I could have some true satisfaction and happiness in my life .