Healthy Sex Support Group

This community is dedicated to an open discussion about healthy sex and sharing thoughts and feelings about sexuality and improving one's sex life. Most active adults desire to have an active and fulfilling sex life, both for themselves and also their partner. Here we discuss common sexual challenges faced by both men and women.

4,510 Members

18,215 Posts

1 Online

kholers92 04/06/2017

so as the title says I am a 25 year old virgin in every sense of the word both physical and emotional. I've never had a girlfriend ( I also identify as a lesbian btw) and even going on a date scares me. I do have a past of being sexually abused but it was forever ago. Just wondering what's wrong with me that no one likes me or wants to be with me... kind of lonely I guess. !

Aronia 04/07/2017

There is probably nothing wrong with you in a way of attraction, but in order to find love and sex, you actually have to seek it, it doesn't just fall out out the sky . ( I wish it did sometimes lol )
Most people I know have been sexually assaulted at some point in their lives . Unfortunately , that is also not unusual, but if you not sought help for it, it is probably a good idea so you can be a good partner to someone.
One of my bf's was 32 and he was a virgin. He was just shy, but we connected and had a pretty good relationship. Go get what you want !

lostsoul72 04/07/2017

I have to ask the question here. Do you identify as a lesbian due to the abuse you suffered? I don't mean to pry and absolutely do not want to insult you. I am just wondering that if your a virgin and have not been with a good kind man then how do you know?

kholers92 04/07/2017

No I am 100% attracted to females and only females Lolz not offensive no worries

lostsoul72 04/09/2017

That's understandable. :) Like Aronia said you have to get out and look for what you want. You have a lot more to offer than just sex, but you go to a lesbian or look online of someone in a dating sight. It would be just like any other relationship( friends not romantic) in your life you have to get know someone before you feel comfortable with them.

kholers92 04/10/2017

Yea I guess I guess I am really shy and I should open up more lol

shelle68 04/10/2017

There isn't anytign wrong with you. Everyone moves at their own pace. Also, with the abuse, you could be more stand offish and not relly want to jump into anything. A safe way of not getting involved. I avoid dating aas well, Take your time and listen to your gut.

kholers92 04/12/2017

Yea thanks for the support it really helps!!

sexysub56 05/30/2017

Try a dating website. You will meet lots of people. POF is free and you can say if you are looking for men or women. GOOD LUCK!

Join the Conversation