I like really smart, confident men who are capable of risk taking. I can just see it jn their eyes when I meet them. It is very obvious to me.
I like men who are natural born leaders.

Intelligence, bravery, and uniqueness.

They must also love and respect the environment. If they don't recycle, shop with reusable bags and take personal responsibility for the waste products they've acquired, I'm not interested.

I met my husband when I was 22.

I liked... His Handsome looks
He was successful
He was close to his family


He is still all of those things. Which doesn't mean the road has been smooth.

You can ask. What Three main traits would you most look for in a prospective partner and that is all well and good.

What that leaves out is the fact that people are always a mix of good and bad. It sounds so simple to say... Independent, kind and healthy self esteem. there you go. cut and dry!

Oh if that were the case... a person is ever changing, always moving, we have moods.. nobody is independent 100 percent of the time. People are often kind and often cruel ( yep, the very same person) Today my self esteem is aces.. tomorrow? who knows

I think we as humans always forget that when we are "Looking for the one"

It's not so much that most people aren't independent, kind and have healthy self esteem. It's that we might focus in on the times in their lives that they are having trouble being those things.

For me at this moment in time but could change because my mind is not really clear...

1. Honest
2. Good communication
3. Kind

I've already posted here that I get attached to people for the wrong reasons, so I am attached to someone sort of and I know my natural attraction to people is wrong.

Of all the partners I have been with only one of them ticked the above boxes for me, and it is no coincidence therefore that she was the one I came closest to marrying, we were engaged, and I pulled out three months before the big day, was it the greatest regret of my life? Maybe, but maybe not.

What made you break the engagement?

Sweet, funny, pair of legs that don't quit (I lumped 2 legs into one trait).

Okay Shasta I concede, I replace Independent with Loyal.

What made me break the engagement? She was unloyal.

The next question is, can you remember why it was you fell in love with your partner, and does it still apply?

I read a great quote once;

A strong woman wants a man who can handle his life, and her body.

that about sums it up.

Loyal
Smart
Beautiful in my eyes

In order to be loyal, she's gotta love ya in the first place. No one (that I loved) ever loved me that much.

Loyal
Committed (to everything he does)
Strong (body and mind)

Unwavering
( in his goals..in his love ( I know this because..life has handed us the challenge of Chronic Pain and illness in my..and so, our..lives. I've seen lot's of relationships lost to that. I know my husband will never leave me.. Not because I'm all that lovable..but, because of..his character)

Extremely intelligent.

Funny.

Hugs
jc

Attractive........self sufficient .........health conscious