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My DH is 58 and he has pictures of a nude young woman on his phone, he also has a video on his lap top which he has saved of two young women masturbating a man. I suppose i am hurt because he never comes near me. the only thing that gets turned on in our bedroom is the tv !
He also stares at young women when we are out which i find hurtfull and degrading.
He is not interested in anything about me and takes me totally for granted. He doesnt look at me when i am talking, i feel like i am boring. He does not have a clue who my friends are or what i do, he isnt interested. Even when i go to the dr or take tablets he never asks me how i got on or what they are for. I feel that i get nothing from this relationship.
He gets his tea handed to him every night, his house and laundry are clean and his dog is walked and fed. He has to do nothing. I even do the decorating or pay someone to do it.
I work full time and contribute to our expenses and take us on holiday every year. I am careful with my money but have bought him cars and i have no debt, unlike him who buys himself expensive cameras, gadgets etc and has credit cards maxed out and an over draft which he cannot pay off. I am sick of helping him out.
This is not a new thing with the pictures etc but i suppose after all this time i am disappointed that he still feels the need. As the women are so young i feel that he is a dirty old man and it makes me feel sick. His daughter is older than the girls in these photos !
I am depressed and things have been very tough recently for me but i just feel like giving up on this relationship. He knows how i feel about this so there is no point bringing it up again.
what do you think ?
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Hey All...I hope that you have a lovely, peaceful beginning of your weekI have a bunch of chores that need doing but may put them off til tomorrow and just hang out with my landlord/roomie todayWhat about you?...Anything special going on?Have a great day and take good care of you!!..Xo
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Once again I've had a fever today. I'm not going to the hospital because that's a huge waste of time but I did schedule a dr appointment for Wednesday afternoon.
What is keeping you there?
SuzA
He continues to do it because I dont do anything about it. I feel like I hate and despise him.
this week I havnt made dinner and he has. he has also done the washing up but to be honest it is too little too late. Him being nice just makes me confused but He is never going to change. I feel that I need counselling cause I feel like I am going off my head.
He is a jerk and you should seek counseling to have help in seeing you do not deserve to be treated like this. You are right in saying that you have allowed him to be like this, but each day is new and brings the power for us to change whatever we choose. I pray you get the support you need to stand up for yourself and renew your self-respect and dignity because he does not deserve you. He seems to have some type of sexual addiction or worse, and this is not your fault. You have a whole community here who are in your corner and wish you happiness and a resolve to your pain.