I started seeing this woman back in September. Our first couple of months were full of passion. I really liked her. Then in December I stated losing interest, not completely, but I was not sure if I liked her that much anymore. We continued to date and have sex. Four weeks ago she texted me that I was the best thing that had ever happened to her. She wrote other nice things about me, things that someone in love would write. Three weeks ago we went out a couple of times and she was very loving. But two weeks ago everything changed. Her Valentine's day text was HAVE A NICE DAY LOVE. She did not say she loved me or anything else. I had to cancel our date because I was sick. I told her we could try going out the next day but the next day her phone was off and she never answered it. The next day I went to the hospital and we texted for a while. She stopped texting while I was still in the hospital around 9 pm and did not say anything like good night I hope you get better, i love you. She just stopped texting. The next day she texted me to see how I was doing but then she did not answer the phone for the next two days. She said she was getting home very late from work. She told me she has to work a lot more hours now. She had warned me this was going to happen. But since she started working more hours it has been very difficult to talk to her on the phone. She has to work on weekends too so that has meant no dates. She was free this weekend but she went out with her kid one night to a bday party and to a baptism the next day where she spent the full day. I called her and texted her several times but she does not answer. She said she would call me last night but she didnt. She did the same thing other nights as well. She says she will call and doesnt. I am very frustrated today because I cant reach her. I dont understand why going to a family gathering and a baptism means she cannot at least text me. I have been feeling a change in her since Valentines day two weeks ago. Everything was fine until then. Now I barely talk to her, she doesnt say nice things to me like before. When we talk it is for a brief time and all she does is complain about all the work sh e has to do. I text her I love her and she always replies SAME. She does say she loves me. I have a strong gut feeling that I am loosing her. She changed. Something changed. I cannot understand how can someone change so quickly. I also dont know what to do about trying to reach her. Should I stop trying? Should I stopped calling her and texting her? I will text her one more time to tell her I am free tomorrow Sunday if she wants to see me. She told me she could not tell me at this point if we could go out next weekend. She is a nurse and will be on call during the weekend. But in the past we have gone out in spite of that. I feel she is not that interested in seeing me any more. I am very sad. I feel I did not appreciate her for a while and now I really want her back. But even when I was unsure about her we went out and had a great time. One more thing. She had surgery six weeks ago and the doctor told her she could not have sex for six weeks. So we have had no sex for that long. Only dinner dates. She also said from very early on in our relationship that she wanted me to move in with her. In our last date I aked her to please stop mentioning that so often. She mentioned it constantly. I had told her that that was a possibility but I wanted to take things slowly. I feel she doesnt love me any more. Maybe I am being pessimistic. Maybe she is just busy. But I dont think so. I feel I am losing her. She rarely answers the phone when I call her. I have to wait until she calls me to talk to her and she keeps the conversations brief. I really dont want to lose her. It took me a very long time to find someone I liked enough to become involved with.
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