Healthy Relationships Support Group

No relationship is perfect. A long-term relationship requires constant effort to understand each other, fix misunderstandings, solve problems and continue to grow as both individuals change and evolve. How we deal with our misunderstandings is the focus of this community. Join us to find support, get advice, and share your experience with your relationship.

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frustratedar 08/03/2013

I find myself coming back to this sight when u (friends on sight) r the only ones I have to talk to. I've dated off and on. Had my heart broken many times. Long story short I feel so lonely. I know some of u refered me to sights bout codependency. I don't have any real close friends to confided in. I think I'm obsessed with wanting a relationship and love. I see couples in public and I think why can't I have that. I'm constantly looking at a man's hand to see if he has a ring on. I'm really ashamed but I sometimes see couples and think I'm just as pretty as her and I can't keep a man. Do I need help? Just to remind u I'm a single mom 39

deleted_user 08/03/2013

therapy
this is not an uncommon concern

koolman 08/03/2013

Maybe you just don't like to look too deeply into yourself, because it's a dark place (!). To which I say, EMBRACE, ENJOY the darkness.

deleted_user 08/03/2013

Hi frustratedar! I suggest practicing in your head that you don't want a relationship right now b/c they are too much work. When I couldn't afford something I told myself I don't want these things and I want to eat inexpensively at home.

I think you could benefit from having friends to vent to and a journal may be of help. It helps me. Hope that helps.

deleted_user 08/03/2013

Wow, i can relate 150%. I am obsessed over men and want a relationship so bad, even though i've been hurt so so many times. I also look at their finger to see if they are married. I can't really give u advice because i need help with this myself.. *hugs*

frustratedar 08/03/2013

Thanks for ur responses. Nice to have somebody to talk too. School will start in a few weeks and I teach. I am also taking two grad coursesso maybe I will be to busy to obsese bout it. :-)

koolman 08/04/2013

That's good. Obsess about work instead. At least it brings a tangible reward, a paycheck, unlike this relationship stuff, which tends to only bring aggravation.

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