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What should she do ?

xoxoevaa
xoxoevaa

Hey, 


I have a friend that have been in an abusive relationship for almost 2 years now. We have spoke to her to try getting herself out, but she do not want to. She says she loves him and can not see herself without him. I do not know what else to do, most of her friends had so many talks with her. Please any suggesting on how to get my friend out ? 

patternskies
patternskies
thats awesome you're such a concerned friend. Can you tell more information about the relationship?
patti22
patti22
This video helped me to understand how to help people better.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P3JUXQ4kkHs
jcelo24
jcelo24
This hotline website is very informative on how you can help your friend in her position - http://www.thehotline.org/help/help-for-friends-and-family/. Some points that I found to be helpful from the site is to first acknowledge that your friend is in a very difficult situation, but more importantly, be supportive. Be non-judgmental. You mentioned that many of your friend's friends have had conversations with her....maybe the way they are trying to help is coming off as judgmental, so it is not getting through to her.

Another helpful article on this site can be found here - http://www.thehotline.org/2016/06/10/can-i-save-them/. Scroll to "Wanting to Save Someone from an Abusive Relationship". It offers some options to offer the right kind of help for someone in your situation (having a loved on in an abusive relationship). For example: provide a nonjudgmental space that allows your friend to open up to you if they feel comfortable doing so, develop a safety plan with her, and create opportunities to engage in self-care activities with your friend without pressuring them to talk about the relationship. I hope this is helpful!
juliette21
juliette21
He may be threatening her and she may be too afraid to tell you. Sadly very common. I hope that’s not the case, just wanted to share from my own experience.