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I'm really mad right now, and really sad, and hurt, and confused.
About a month ago my fiancee and I were invited to my mother's for New Years eve.... Joey said no, he just wanted to stay at home where there was no temptation to spend money. No problem. We just bought our first home so I get where he is coming from.
Then his best friend call's and asks if we want to come over tonight. Our 4 month old daughter is sick, and I had no baby sitter. So I tell Joey it would be best if we stayed home. His reply.....'I'm going, I don't care what you do.'
AND HE WENT!
On New Years eve he left me home alone with a cranky, sick baby. He told me he would call me when he got there and let me know how long he was going to be. He never called, he won't answer his phone. And he promised me that he would for sure be home by midnight...it's ten past now.
I'm just upset. How could he do this? When would be do this?
About a month ago my fiancee and I were invited to my mother's for New Years eve.... Joey said no, he just wanted to stay at home where there was no temptation to spend money. No problem. We just bought our first home so I get where he is coming from.
Then his best friend call's and asks if we want to come over tonight. Our 4 month old daughter is sick, and I had no baby sitter. So I tell Joey it would be best if we stayed home. His reply.....'I'm going, I don't care what you do.'
AND HE WENT!
On New Years eve he left me home alone with a cranky, sick baby. He told me he would call me when he got there and let me know how long he was going to be. He never called, he won't answer his phone. And he promised me that he would for sure be home by midnight...it's ten past now.
I'm just upset. How could he do this? When would be do this?
What he did was not very nice so I can certainly understand your feelings. What I do question is why he felt the need to do this in the first place and once you can find that out it might make things a whole lot clearer and then you both can make some changes that will benefit you both so this kind of behavior does not happen again.
Anyway try and have a talk with him and let him know how hurt you were as well as listening to his reasons why he felt the need to ignore you when he went out perhaps he is feeling some hurt as well and you are not aware of it. Hoping you both can work out your feelings very soon:)