To me: having mutual respect, understanding and good communication with each other. Thats really about it, even though it's hard as hell.

Thank you.

Both be willing to look at yourself honestly and then both be willing to make positive changes that would contribute to your being a healthy half of the relationship mentally, emotionally and physically.

I agree, well said.

I do agree. Compromise is important. So is acceptance.

I agree with all, and would add that we have to have time for ourself and time together, and balance both. Being always together or always appart is not an healthy relationship.

I would also add that it takes trust, and that both partners have to love themselves to be able to love others...

he and I genuinely appreciate the other for who we are.....so we typically have a good time when we're together alone or around other friends.......we have also learned how to agree to disagree on the little things and agree and accept the big things that matter....when we're together, it feels natural!

I am so glad we are all on the same page.

I find it very interesting that out of 5 responders, noone mentioned sex as a requirement for a heathly relationship. I take that to mean that if you have the forementioned qualities is your relationship, sex is not going to make or break the relationship. It is just icing on the cake.

Yes, ScarletAngel, in a long run, foundation should be more than sex.

Healthy can happen with all of those things ONLY if you are over with your last relationship, went through the proper grieving and then you can move to having a healthy relationship.

I am dealing with a man who never emotionally ended his marriage and now he is taking the time to do it now. We had all the things you mentioned above but without closure you can't have healthy.

Hmm your right #11

But possibly we all thought that was a given - youknow - being fully present in the current relationship.

Thats sounds difficult what you have gone through - perhaps a seperate post would be welcom on the topic of "rebound" relationships?

For me, having someone who appreciates my warped sense of humor and we're a mountain of molten passion and lust together that is also completely comfortable. Being "comfortable in craziness" is important to me.

And, yes, an environment of mutual respect, admiration, supportiveness, communicating well...listening and understanding, offering love and guidance, growing spiritually, understanding our physically changing bodies and making accomodations...

Thank you for sharing))))

without TRUST..

there is no US


the snooping and all that insecurity and jealousy b.s...will end a relationship faster than anything...