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what does it mean ..?

Christinaki
Christinaki
When you tell a guy you love him, and you have known each other for years, and have slept together but never been in a relationship, when you tell him this and he disappears from the face of earth .. it means he doesn't love you ... right?

I already know it but I need confirmation.. and to convince myself of that.
Aronia
Aronia
No, it doesn't mean that always, but likely.
Shai
Shai
hmmm...i would think it depends on the guy...but as a woman, i would probably draw the same conclusion as you. how many days has he been "missing"?
Christinaki
Christinaki
about 2 and a half to 3 months lol
Shai
Shai
oh, i see. well, i would most definitely jump to the conclusion that you've jumped to......

but (yes, there is a BUT).....what are the chances that he could've been in a terrible terrible accident where he lost his phone (or his memory)...n is wandering around the city someplace??

sorry, i watch too many movies...i think i got that storyline from that movie with sandra bullock n that guy who she saves from getting hit by the train....n what's that other movie where santa loses his memory n is wandering around the city??

oh well...don't take the whole disappearance too bad. better he disappeared than said "i love you, too" but never really meant it...n then you find out years later that he didn't mean it...blah blah blah...sorry, again with the movies.... =(
Christinaki
Christinaki
hahahahahahaha good point but no sweety he is alive and well, i know this cause he is active on facebook and such .. he just didnt bother to at least tell me anything, guess he is not man enough to do that .. :P
Shai
Shai
LoL. not man enough is RIGHT! what a DOUCHE! (sorry) so he can fool around with you, etc...but he can't be honest with you?? wow...
onetoomany
onetoomany
He should have at least told you that he does not feel the same./

Agreed=Douche
Christinaki
Christinaki
Thanks girls :) I'm glad to know I wasnt wrong..
deleted_user
deleted_user
First..I am sorry that your in this position. It's such a tough thing..but honestly there could be two things going on. He could be scared spitless because you confirmed what he was fearing. The other thing is that he probably is doing this so he "doesn't hurt you" but in the long run he really is hurting you. I've only done this once..and I did care for the person a lot..just not on the same level as he cared for me. I felt so foolish because I ended up just running away and not looking back. I did eventually talk to him..and informed him that I just wasn't in the right place at that time to go to the next level. Which was very honest..and not really sure why I felt the need to just run instead of face him?
Christinaki
Christinaki
I think that it's no one's fault that I fell for him, but he should see that coming when he gave me attention 24/7 for months, sent me presents, took me on holiday abroad with him, lured me into sex, talked about love, kids, marriage etc..

It's not like I caught these feelings just by myself.. plus this guy knew that this would happen.. yet he talked me into losing my virginity with him and then left without a word..

It is tough and I learned a lesson, but he could have been honest and said no at least, instead of doing all of this for years and then run away like a coward..