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Weird Mother's Day...

tk4909
tk4909

I'm just here to vent... I found myself feeling weird and somewhat sad today after seeing all the mothers around me. My husband is deployed (likely for the rest of the year) and while he have not tried to have kids we have talked about how it might be a good time to visit the idea after he comes back home. Communication has been a struggle since he left. So I haven't really had a chance to express to him my growing desire to start a family. Right after he first left I thought I was pregnant. It was scary because if I was pregnant I knew he would likely miss the birth and everythign related to the pregnancy. So it was a huge relief on one hand to find out I was not pregnant, but it was also somewhat dissapointing. Weird and conflicting feelings I know. Mother's Day has never bothered me in the past, but this year it was hard. 

Atpeacemary
Atpeacemary
hugs my friend is all I can say. It is nice that you want your husband to be there for the birth of his child. Things will happen when the time is right.
walkerjam
walkerjam
I can relate that it is hard to see happy mothers all around you when you desire to be a mother yourself. I am sorry you're going through this! I would definitely bring it up with him when the time is right and see if he's ready. In the mean time, I've found that I feel better after looking at ideas for designing a nursery/ play room, reading about parenting, and even shopping for little things like blankets, onesies, etc. You may not be able to use those things just yet, but it makes me feel like I'm planning ahead and gives me something to look forward to rather than something to be sad about. I hope you feel better soon!
six.girl
six.girl
It can be tough. My brother is in the navy and his girlfriend had come to me about the same thing. All I can say is try to look at this in a good way. If you talk about it and do decide to have children at least he will be there for you and the baby. My best wishes!
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
Big hug tk and support while you work out these feelings.....xo
tk4909
tk4909
Thank you every one for the support and encouragement! These feelings just hit me out of no where but I know things will happen when they're meant to be and in the way they are meant to be.
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