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My girlfriend and I have been dating seriously for over 4 years and living together for about 7 months. A couple weeks ago my brother invited my parents, myself and my girlfriend to a house on the Jersey shore that he is renting for a week. We already have plans to go see her sister in Boston the weekend we would be coming back from Jersey to the plan is to go to the shore on Tuesday, drive to Boston Friday and return home on Sunday.
During all of these plans being made my girlfriend has been applying to jobs, and she told me today that if she gets a call on Tuesday or Wednesday to come in for a second interview that she would pack up and drive home. I responded by asking her if I could stay with my family and her drive back (if this even happens still hypothetical). She became very upset and said that I don't support her and that I don't care at all about her.
To me this is just insane, I do support and love this girl. she grew up going to Florida and Hilton head every year and I have never been to the Ocean or anywhere vacation like in my entire house. I grew up in a middle class working family with 5 kids and vacations weren't something that my parents had money left for.
Am I really being this unreasonable and ridiculous? I feel that we should be two mature adults (my GF and I are both 26 years old) and if this happens I will hope and pray for the best with her job, she can go back home and I will hitch a ride with my parents or brother both of which all live in the same town as I do.
I'm really struggling and don't know what to do...
During all of these plans being made my girlfriend has been applying to jobs, and she told me today that if she gets a call on Tuesday or Wednesday to come in for a second interview that she would pack up and drive home. I responded by asking her if I could stay with my family and her drive back (if this even happens still hypothetical). She became very upset and said that I don't support her and that I don't care at all about her.
To me this is just insane, I do support and love this girl. she grew up going to Florida and Hilton head every year and I have never been to the Ocean or anywhere vacation like in my entire house. I grew up in a middle class working family with 5 kids and vacations weren't something that my parents had money left for.
Am I really being this unreasonable and ridiculous? I feel that we should be two mature adults (my GF and I are both 26 years old) and if this happens I will hope and pray for the best with her job, she can go back home and I will hitch a ride with my parents or brother both of which all live in the same town as I do.
I'm really struggling and don't know what to do...
Also with her wanting to study together then why can't she turn off the tv and study in quiet with you? People who continually want you to compromise and they don't is a bad sign. Pay attention to this.
I can tell you this b/c for a time I was somewhat needy and got hurt feelings if I felt "uncared for" in relationships. It has to be a conscious effort for me to stop it.
I wish you the best:) and have a great time on your vacation!!