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So he came over.
Now I feel super super confused.
He had bought a car load of complete random stuff from the house. I just dont get it at all.
But then we talked some, and I cried some. He said it was over and what's done is done. Then we chatted some more about family and what was going on with everyone. I said some things I wanted to say, he said some things and it felt nice.
Then he asked me if we could go for a coffee or lunch. I agreed and said 'why not'
He took my hand as we walked through the city. It was nice.
We found somewhere to eat and had a nice talk over lunch, it was as if we had never been apart. ( I know I am romanticising there!) He said 'did you se that a guy nearly got run over as he was looking at me?' We talked some more over lunch about us and the future and how he wanted to continue to work together and what I should do with my accounts. He said he had left his wedding ring in my jewellery box for me to do with as I wished. We had a long hug as he set off, he told me he loved me and always would. It felt so nice. I miss him. One minute he was saying he wanted me to come home but I didnt so it is over, the next minute he says he cant sleep without me and just wants me to come home. The next minute its over, then I love you. As he left he said 'try and be excited about your new life here'.
Im so confused.
What just happened?
Have I just had an almighty mind fuck?!!!
I heard he has now got a lodger in my daughters room, I have been gone for three weeks now, the lodger has been in for 2. So it seems he has moved on really fast. The lodger is a young guy so that will satisfy his need to help people maybe…..
I feel okay today. better.
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Thank you so much for all your thoughts on this it has helped me so much. I feel a bit more stable today and I know I need to focus on myself and not agonise over why he does what he does or his motives. What matters now is me and how I will move forward. So I will keep focussed on that!