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I'm bored so I thought that I'd just post something to pass the time.
I've been dating again for a bit. It's not completely intentional.
The relationships usually start out as friends but usually turn in to something more. The downside is that i don't feel any passion for or from these girls. Sure I find them attractive but the passion isn't there. I don't really feel it from them and the sex isn't the best. I usually try to make them happy but after I feel like I've done my job, I turn over and go to sleep.
I have made a lot of female friends. They're great as friends but when we go out they usually suggest that I come back to their place to watch some TV or whatever. I stupidly agree.
Or this happens She comes to my house and drops her car off and we go out to dinner and then a bar, We stay out really late and she might have drank a bit and I usually ask if she wants to just sleep over. I only have 1 bed. I could be a gentleman and sleep on the couch but no we get in bed together.
I have a bit of a manic side. When I go out to have a little fun I get really happy. I am the life of the party. I have a lot of friends usually by the end of the night. I get manic and loud. I drink a bit but that's not why I'm so giddy. I usually only have a crown and coke or something like that. When the night is coming to an end I try anything to keep the fun going. In all honesty I don't like coming down off my high alone so that is probably a big reason why things end up in the bedroom.
I know that this is very different from a lot of my posts.
I know that I'm not being a good friend to these girls.
I know that by what I'm doing that I'm fucking up a possibly good friendships and maybe more.
I know that I am just as bad as the girl that I mentioned in my other post (should I go).
I do find myself very caring and compassionate for other people's feelings but my manic side comes out and I just want to have a little fun.
I have a dark passenger who is a perverted sex freak.
Dexter fans will get a kick out of that.
I know what I'm doing wrong. I probably need to just run home and masterbate when the night is coming to an end. It's hard for me to find passion because I don't let the relationship evolve to its full potential.
I have hurt some good friends.
Just wanted to share on how much of an ass I'very been lately and then getting pissed about a friend of mine dressing up in a slutty outfit.
Yeah I'm a prick!
Just kinda figuring out this as I type!
I probably could have posted this in my Journal.
Much more fun posting here!
I've been dating again for a bit. It's not completely intentional.
The relationships usually start out as friends but usually turn in to something more. The downside is that i don't feel any passion for or from these girls. Sure I find them attractive but the passion isn't there. I don't really feel it from them and the sex isn't the best. I usually try to make them happy but after I feel like I've done my job, I turn over and go to sleep.
I have made a lot of female friends. They're great as friends but when we go out they usually suggest that I come back to their place to watch some TV or whatever. I stupidly agree.
Or this happens She comes to my house and drops her car off and we go out to dinner and then a bar, We stay out really late and she might have drank a bit and I usually ask if she wants to just sleep over. I only have 1 bed. I could be a gentleman and sleep on the couch but no we get in bed together.
I have a bit of a manic side. When I go out to have a little fun I get really happy. I am the life of the party. I have a lot of friends usually by the end of the night. I get manic and loud. I drink a bit but that's not why I'm so giddy. I usually only have a crown and coke or something like that. When the night is coming to an end I try anything to keep the fun going. In all honesty I don't like coming down off my high alone so that is probably a big reason why things end up in the bedroom.
I know that this is very different from a lot of my posts.
I know that I'm not being a good friend to these girls.
I know that by what I'm doing that I'm fucking up a possibly good friendships and maybe more.
I know that I am just as bad as the girl that I mentioned in my other post (should I go).
I do find myself very caring and compassionate for other people's feelings but my manic side comes out and I just want to have a little fun.
I have a dark passenger who is a perverted sex freak.
Dexter fans will get a kick out of that.
I know what I'm doing wrong. I probably need to just run home and masterbate when the night is coming to an end. It's hard for me to find passion because I don't let the relationship evolve to its full potential.
I have hurt some good friends.
Just wanted to share on how much of an ass I'very been lately and then getting pissed about a friend of mine dressing up in a slutty outfit.
Yeah I'm a prick!
Just kinda figuring out this as I type!
I probably could have posted this in my Journal.
Much more fun posting here!
Lately, i ve been feeling like " good enough" is just not cutting it.
Time is ticking...
I need to find a way to settle myself down besides having sex.
Seriously tho are you saying that basically you feel like you are using women for sex and that is it and you are not interested in anything more? No judging just asking. I mean if that is all you want from them then maybe you should be clear about that from the beginning.You know what I mean? Just a suggestion. But if you want to be their friends and truly get to know them then maybe you should not have sex with them so fast and take the time to get to know them. Up to you.
I didn't answer the other post because yes you Were being a judgmental prick. (Bless you for acknowledging this)
There's nothing wrong with just wanting to have sex, just make it clear.
I'm the same way.... The fun one.
I don't know what I'm trying to say right now (curse you vodka and redbull!!!)
Just thinking what if you truly want to be friends with these women then maybe you shouldn't have sex with them. It changes the dynamics of the relationship and the friendship. A woman could feel like she was being used if you have sex with them and then kinda dump them. You know what I mean? I think that you should be honest and upfront with them. But be prepared for the friendship to change if you have sex with them. Sounds like maybe you want the friends with benefits thing. I just don't think that works but maybe if you find someone that wants that too it can.
Do you even know what you want? I am being serious.
I like to have someone sleep next to me.
I think it is bad for the soul. I ve done it, i understand why we all do it and at the time it seems good, but once you are alone again - this is what happens, you are unsettled..
If my relationship doesnt work out, i am not whoring around again. I d rather order a vibrator factory shipment in bulk than do drive-by orgasms from random guys .
I finally realize that i am a rare stone and deserve a red box with a velvet pillow, not a plastic bag with a tissue paper.
Hope you find someone special and feel better soon :-)
I should really follow your advice.
I can get by on my own I am used to being by myself.
Looking for a lay is really disheartening to me.
I know that this isn't how I'm going to find the right girl to say I love you to.