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the choice

Jersey_of_Oz
Jersey_of_Oz

Love is a choice.


I wake up every day and may the choice to love my husband. Sometimes that choice is really easy. Sometimes it is a more difficukt choice to make. 


Lust lasses. Pasion fades. Sex... well.... adults don't always have time for fun.... But Love. Love is a choice. One that I will continue to make. 


Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
Good for you working on your marriage.... Love takes effort.... It's not always simply a feeling......xo
rmb
rmb
I agree.. it really is an act of will. There is something about it being a choice that makes it more meaningful, to me.
Sarahhope0417
Sarahhope0417
Very well said.
Daisy84
Daisy84
Love it! Well said
Misred
Misred
I say this all the time! So yeah, I agree!
hithere1234
hithere1234
Agreed! Love is definitely a choice. However, it should not be a hard choice to make. I mean of course, there will be days, weeks and even some months when choosing to love someone is hard, but if you find yourself finding it more and more difficult to choose love on a regular basis, then that just becomes a cycle of self inflicted pain and misery.

I like to use the percentages formula, if we are happy and in love 60-70% of the time, then the other 30 - 40 % is worth fighting through. However once that balance skews further, continuing to chose to love someone who makes you miserable most of the time, is just not worth it.
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