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We were supposed to visit my children over the weekend and then take a day by ourselves to see some sights. Friday was a good day, but Friday night got heated again. He can't let things go regaqrding my 'lack of attention toward him'. He, again brought up the frequency of kisses and hugs I give him. He feels 3-4 times a day is not enough nor normal. What IS normal when it comes to things like this? We argued, I asked if we could just not dwell on this area but look at the positive. He says there's nothing positive about it. He told me he daoen't want me to move into the new house this weekend. Nice, huh? I went to bed. He had made a withdrawal from the bank Thursday for the trip, so I asked him if I could have some cash and he said NO. REALLY? He at least didn't take my debit card so I could still make some purchases.
I had to lie about his absence. I told my youngest son and oldest daughter about the troubles. My son was pissed. My daughter was very rational and practical and actually gave me some points on how to behave toward Wes. My son is home from being away overseas for the past 4 years with the Marine Corps and he wants to get together, alone. I am so depresses, I can't stop crying. I don't want to see anyone.
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Well, good morning to you!Today is National Roller Coaster Day. Are any of you going?It's also National Tell-A-Joke Day! Come up with some and share!I'm not bright with jokes these days, but I'll start:"Today I ordered a chicken and an egg from Amazon...I'll let you know." :D
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The weeks seem to fly by!Happy Saturday to everyoneI hope that the weekend brings some chill time and barbecuesDoes it take others what seems like forever to add a comment on the boards?I'm okay everywhere else except boards..Everywhere else adds normally but it's annoyingly slow!Have a great Saturday and do something nice for you!!Big hug...xo

Sorry you are going through this. What I get from reading your post is that your husband may be passive aggressive. If certain things don't go his way or happen naturally when he needs it to, he withdraws or try to hurt you in other ways; the trip and money issue for example.
We all have different love languages and sometimes that alone can cause tension if there is a misunderstanding between the two. I'm sure you're affectionate and it's apparent your husband loves it and he wants it from you. Do you think you can surprise him one day by giving in to what he wants? And by also expressing to him that you love him but these things have to come naturally and hurting you and withdrawaling doesn't make it better.
I would also like to ad that counseling would be good for the both of you but if he's blaming you, then he also needs to look at himself and ask "what can he improve or change to make you want him more, or why he may be feeling this way." Personal counseling will help you better yourself but not your marriage.
Your post i would say run not walk. You might need
Some help to get to the run stage. Go To your own
Therapist to help you formulate whats really going
on and Whats best for you and your growth and
Healing. HUGS