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mysteryman73 08/26/2013

Why do people stalk, what make's someone want to hang out when there ex say's it's over.

deleted_user 08/26/2013

I don't know, they refuse to accept the relationship is over, jealousy, a control freak. I was stalked years ago by an ex-b/f who was a control freak which is the reason I broke it off with him in the first place. His stalking turned from just wanting to get back together to following me everywhere I went, non-stop phone calls all hours of the day and night and then turned to threats of physical violence. It finally ended when I got the police involved, he was served with a PFA order and a friend took it upon himself to give the guy a warning.

mysteryman73 08/26/2013

I think it is all about control.

deleted_user 08/26/2013

And control is about insecurity, fear, anxiety, feeling like things are unresolved, thinking that we can't take the loss, not knowing what else to do.

Was the breakup one where you found fault with him? left angry? was his life centered on you?

Men can be much more dependent on a woman than we think, not because they are weaker, but because sometimes their life has no meaning without their woman.

I'm not talking about extreme stalkers like the girl after that nite show guy.

When I break up, or decline someone, I try very hard to do it with the utmost respect.

mysteryman73 08/26/2013

I broke up with her, she had control issue's, she wanted to know who I was talking too, where I was, and wanted to be with me 24's hours a day. Now she is texting me all of the time, emailing me at work and home.

deleted_user 08/26/2013

If you told her to leave you alone, do not reply to text or emails, but save them just in case things get worse and if she doesn't stop sending them, block her phone number and email address. She'll either finally "get it" and leave you alone or she'll get more aggressive with her stalking.

If worse comes to worse, file harassment charges.

MsViv 08/26/2013

I think the stalker has unresolved issues and lack of understanding that the relationship would actually be over. What really sucks is when the one who did the breakup also does the stalking...

koolman 05/09/2015

8-26-13: Really? Must be kinda slow around here.

sambod 05/09/2015

i'm sorry but listing of addresses and phone numbers on here is not allowed. therefore I am going to have to close this thread

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