My sense of this behavior is that it’s a symptom of the time we live in where the distractions are constantly pulling us in so many directions. Please know that it isn’t you as much as it is about the chaos that many people live their lives in. This is why I love to walk in the woods. Quiet is priceless. Sorry your feelings were hurt:)

when i deserve better, i try my best to give it to myself. the times i succeed are divine. i work my therapy tools to get through the times what i deserve isn't available. insert radical acceptance here.

I think it's being a wuss!

I'm sorry that you've been hurt sweetie and it does suck

Big squishy hug...xo

Finallyawake, you kindly advocated for the cruel people that suck by being wusses!

Not me!!

I think most of these men/women who treat another person cruelly, there's many ways not just by ghosting, are insecure themselves and feed off their kicks to validate their existence in their miserable lives.

It's a trait and a behavioral cult all based on what drives them to do so, their kickback. In psychology, they have a chemical imbalance reflecting their shallow narcissistic personality. They lack "empathy" and "self-regulation."

I'm glad you figured it out for yourself on time!!

I believe a well-balanced secure man and woman will not initiate, instigate, tolerate, or entertain cruelty much less at the expense of another. Not only is it childish, pessimistic behavior, but it's all in vain, unfruitful nonsense.

You don't know the person's intention until you realize the emotional/mental abuse they project. So don't beat yourself up for something you didn't do and for someone not meant for you. Be thankful you're in your own light and get to see the light.

God bless you!

Thank you for everyone’s input in like no excuse for this, I was just talking to someone about this. Feels like we all shouldn’t treat each other a lot better than that and give each other the benefit of the doubt but some people just don’t get the memo, but I live I learn, and in the future, also around myself with a better knowledge of all of us and be careful for my well-being

Healthy well balanced empathetic adults don't pull crap like this!! It's the ones who never outgrew their insecurities and complexities as a child that now as adults behave as such because they were never corrected early on in life. They have a self-regulation problem and they think is okay to mistreat others. WE KOW it is NOT OKAY. It's a proven fact with the narcissist personality trait.

Be the Salt and LIGHT of this world.

Because even as adults people are mean and immature and don’t care when they hurt someone’s feelings.

As a teenager should even know better but there at the Inmaturity stage in life but as of once you become an adult you should definitely no better and know it’s wrong women do it to not just men.

If your dating or in a relationship or friendship regardless if you don’t want to be a part of there life anymore and it may hurt the person but to ghost someone is just plain wrong.

You may feel hurt now but it should remind you you deserve better and I believe in karma

I think it is a trait of our culture or society being so self-absorbed. Everyone focused on themselves not the community of other human beings.

I was thinking about how manners are not taught today like they were 200 years ago. I was reading this fiction book about how a women in the 1880's was taught so many rules of behavior by her parents. We just don't have these rules of behavior any longer it seems. Some of us do, of course.

I almost ghosted someone I just met (early friendship) after a text message I considered irrational and racist and catastrophe creating. I was hearing things I didn't think would make a good friendship all along (we have not met in person because she cancelled last week). She sent me a text last night that had racism and irrational political stuff that I can't abide. I texted her it was a no to our friendship and of course, she gaslit me for doing so (bad friend, judgmental).

If I had just never answered her texts or phone calls or email, it would have saved me from that BS. But ghosting isn't telling someone the truth. I felt in this situation, I had to tell her the truth but doing so came at a cost to myself. Now processing the entire weird thing.

I had to block her and her email on my phone because she got so ugly. Many people want to avoid this and just ghost.

Any relationship has its dynamics and reasons for behavior. Ghosting, yes I get it. If you're in a toxic relationship it might be best. Some people will only seek to cling and drag you back no matter what. Ghosting may be the only way to escape. Painful and emotional past that triggers trauma. That might be another reason. People might say you should try and talk it out. But each persons pain threshold and sanity is different.

Some might say this is obvious, but I don't think so. I have a friend, still call her that, in Australia I got to know deeply and helped her through divorce. She met someone new and I encouraged her to pursue her own happiness. I was her advocate and sounding board for years.. I've been 'ghosted' since 2017 with no explanation at all. But I expected it was a possibility. A new spouse or partner wouldn't take kindly to a special friendship with someone even if 11 000 kilometers away. I said I understood that if such was required, I would understand. Well, it happened. It's bewildering but I do understand.

The no explanation part is the toughest. They just vanish. I'm not hurt or offended. I prep myself from long distance friendships getting cut off. Life happens. But I can appreciate your perspective and realize how I might have done it in the past, along with many things, that had impacts I didn't even consider.