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jessekay
jessekay

I gave my boyfriend 8 years off and on and in the end he made my life miserable I know him 20 years I deserve better he's been blocking like all days avoiding me to using dating sites and add porn stars on his social media page I am so hurt and his drinking was out of control like 24 packs very other day I really think when i ended it today I was fed up and he never show up to any of my family functions and get together I am choosing to leave him for good I'm sad but more like numb I am not letting back in I truthfully deserve better I wish I would just work on my self 

rmb
rmb
Hey good for you!
SunkenShips
SunkenShips
Happy for you! Life is tough enough without having to carry someone on your back. Stay brave and strong!
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
You do deserve better.... Much better..... It doesn't seem like he will ever change or wants to

Big squishy hug.... xo
Gonefornow
Gonefornow
Yes, you do deserve better. Take some time to heal and self love.
jessekay
jessekay
Thanks guys for all the support and well wishes. I really feel like I did the right thing took me a long time. I do need to focus on self-love and just myself for a while.
Marian2
Marian2
You showed strength in your decision. It sounds like the right one. Best to you.
jessekay
jessekay
I appreciate thatMarian2
hasty_05
hasty_05
Yes, jessekay, you did the "right" thing by breaking this off. People show us who they are and how they are. What he is showing you is unacceptable. Since he is an alcoholic, going to Al Anon can be very helpful and enlightening. I didn't understand the whole issue until I absorbed their materials and support groups.

You know what? You matter more than hanging on to this dysfunctional guy and the dysfunctional relationship pattern. As long as your mind is wrapped up in trying to fix him or hoping he will change, you won't see the next good guy that comes along.
Goldielocks5
Goldielocks5
Good for you! I am so proud of you to leave him ;)

One day you will start working on you. Give yourself a little credit and break, because your decision to.leave was hard enough. Seems like you are motivated to do so. You have us here whenever you need support.
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