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She had her tubes cut and burned five years ago. But recently I found out that it is possible for her to get pregnant. She missed her period twice and had nausea and vomit. I searched the web and found out that many women who had their tubes cut and burned got pregnant in spite of that. I got really scared. I am 52 and have never had kids. She is 47. We have been together for a few months only. She took a double pregnancy test and was negative. That was a big relief but now I am scared to finish inside her without a condom. She wants me to finish inside her without a condom. I feel she might get upset if I now insist on wearing a condom. I rather not use one but I dont want to go through another episode of thinking she is pregnant if she misses her period again. She doesnt want a baby either. She told me that if she had gotten pregnant she would have cried the full nine months. But she would never have an abortion so she would learn to love the baby. She went to the doctor and the doctor ordered another pregnancy test, blood -based. I want to use a condom. How can I tell her that without making her upset? She still thinks it is impossible for her to get pregnant. So for her using a condom is ridiculous and takes away much of the pleasure of doing it without one. I know the probability is low but she can get pregnant. It is possible. Its all over the web .
Tell her every time you cum without the condom you will be thinking of her crying for 9 months and it will kill the mood for you..As someone said, you can always get a vasectomy if you feel this is going to be a long term relationship...
I'm not a romantic at heart, to be honest, so the skeptical side comes out at times: It's great when someone tells you they had one other partner for a year....it doesn't mean it's true.
Not saying you're in that situation, I just tend to look out for me first, and believe about half of what I hear.
Do you know what she had exactly done? There's a difference between "cut and burned" and tied.