I would work on cutting the ties. I know it's hard but you're just getting strung along. That's what's been happening to me. I was living with mine but am in the process of leaving. I'm only one day one so I'm a wreck. Mine said the same things about caring, valuing me as a friend, lover, companion, etc. So WTF when he said "living arrangement" 2 months ago.

Sadly it's about control with some of them. She's doing to come close yet stay away. Yours is recent too so I know it must hurt alot but she made her choice, now let her live with it. Remind yourself you deserve better.

She wants to date someone else and keep you on the side and keep you around in case she changes her mind. She can't have it both ways. You need to sever ties and find someone who appreciates you and the attention you I'm sure give a woman. You don't need someone who doesn't appreciate you as much as you her. You are both not a match for one another. You like time with her she only makes time when it's convenient in her busy schedule. Just tell her you what you are doing and that you will not answer her calls anymore and down the road if she is ready to commit to you only then perhaps you can assess then. She wants you around "just in case". That is not fair to you. Best to you!

@gabriel

Can't you see she is treating you like #2???? Reverse this around and pretend you are telling her the same thing she is telling you. Do you think she would stick around and put up with that? You need to let her know that you don't appreciate being #2 in her life and if she is not ready to make you #1 then you need to move on to someone who will treat you like #1.

I should mention that her lawyer is married and she told me she was in love with him before she met me a year ago. He did not want to divorce his wife so she went out to look for someone else and found me in fb and pursued me quite intensely for months before I paid attention to her. Everything was going so well until we started getting serious. Then she started backing off. first she said she was scared because she comes from two long term abusive relationships. but now she says the reason for her backing off is because she is still in love with her lawyer. she said one visit to a psychologist made her see this. One visit. I dont understand her. Any person who would have gone through all the fun times we went through, calling each other every day for months with great enthusiasm, would have developed feelings for each other, i did but she apparently did not. I dont get her. Something is holding her back. One day is fear of commitment, now is the married lawyer. I give up. No contact. I will try not to answer her calls. i am so sad.

Unless you enjoy the roller coaster ride she has you on and enjoy being treated like crap, drop all ties with her.

I said it before.

She's playing games with you.

You either accept it and stay or move on.

Your choice.

Gabriel~

Seriously, this woman is playing games with you.
Don't you know you deserve much better than this?
Let her go, cut ties.

"She seems to like me when I am hard to get and not like me when I am clearly very interested in her."

You've just uncovered the secret, sad to say, Gabriel, in male/female romantic/sexual relationships! Act aloof. Don't be so interested in her. Let her come to you.

Personally, I too hate playing these silly games, but it seems it's the way it is.